I’m nearly 50 but tbh I seem to get a fair amount of opportunity for relationships. Problem is I’ve become almost dependent on ed pills like Cialis or Viagra… Even tried something from a Chinese herbalist (which failed me at the wrong time!!) when having a nice session with my gf I sometimes take forever to cum and it’s a problem for me and believe it or not my gf… She’s got endometriosis so obviously don’t want me banging away indefinitely…
Delayed ejaculation can be caused by a number of things and once it is in your ‘head’ it can become more of a problem. Doing some mindful practice, noticing the negative thoughts that float into your head and the worries about causing pain etc when you imagine yourself having sex. The working on letting them float through and replace them with more erotic thoughts. Thinking about your arousal cycle and what would help tip you over? Talking to your partner - discussing what climaxing means for both of you? Making more about the love making than the ‘coming’ - taking breaks and once there is less pressure on the climax it may well sort itself out. : )
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I’m 48 and have DE issues as well. There can be various reasons for it. I think the pills may contribute because they kind of make you “last longer” so it’s possible they would impact ok that too. But I think it’s mostly a mental thing + if you’re used to masturbating (if you haven’t had a partner for a while) and especially “dry” and “grippy” it will take a while to get used to the vagina again as it’s obviously different. Also, if you’re used to porn, having sex with a woman is not going to be like looking at porn, you do the they graphic imagery your brain may require to stimulate you enough to reach climax. Could also be stress/anxiety as you can’t focus. Could also be less sensitivity in your penis or damaged nerves.
I use the pills as a confidence booster but am considering stopping them for a while to see if it’ll shorten the time to cum. Good luck.