What's the deal?

🏎️ Sex drive and libido
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So when my wife was on the implant I would always be teasing her sexually, like I’d slap her ass, grope her around the house, but because of the implant she wasn’t that keen on it, and I just want to stress that when she was off the implant she was a horny beast :joy: anyway cut to now where she’s had it removed and I’ve got my horny beast back, now it’s like I’ve lost all my libido and now she’s the one groping me and wanting me to have sex a lot but it’s like I’m just not up for it the majority of the time.

We used to have amazing sex before our daughter was born. I would manage to finish from actual sex and now I’m constantly just having to get myself off. The sensations from oral and actual sex are also not very satisfying either like it feels okay but not “amazing”. I don’t know what’s wrong with me but I wish we could go back to having amazing sex.

I now struggle to maintain a rock hard erection, like I’ll literally lose my erection during penetrative sex. What’s wrong with me?

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To me - it sounds like you’re forcing it and getting in your head. I’m there too but working through the exercises on this app has helped me to become grounded and begin to enjoy sex again.

Talk to your wife about it and ask her to be patient too. Seek to pleasure her and if you have an orgasm too - awesome. If not, the time will come that you will.

Just enjoy the sensations and realize we can’t all be horny teenage boys forever (thank goodness). I feel like working through this and practicing what I’m saying has helped leaps and bounds with sex. I’ve got a lot more emotion as an older man (I’m only 41, but there’s a lot more stress and moving parts). I’m working to get my libido to a stronger level, maintain my erection and control my orgasm. I’m asking for my wife’s patience in the meantime and working to please her needs.