Dont bottle up you emotions, speak to your partner, friends or family. Get the support you need and reduce the anxiety levels surrounding the subject. Youre not alone
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Move on, donât dwell upon this, it is normal that this happens, there is nothing wrong with you. It happens to everyone, dont loose your mind over it
Try to start addressing it as quickly as you can and just keep trying different things. My biggest regret is that I went years without putting in real effort to address it and I think it made the problem a lot worse then it had to be.
You are not alone and it is not the end of the world. Donât beat yourself up for it. It happens to lots of guys. You can always talk to me about it without any judgement.
There are about a 100 million others in your exact shoes
Seek help and dont go into extremes. Your sexuality is your ally
Donât bottle up your performance anxiety problem
Donât worry it is completely normal. Happens to everyone.
think about the times where you COULD get it up and how fun that was. you know youre capable
I would encourage them to be kind to themselves, to realise itâs a fairly common issue and theyâre not alone. To remember the male body is not a machine, sometimes it works well, sometimes it doesnât. That doesnât mean anything is broken, it just proves they are human
Have a lot of sympathy for them, saying that im here for them and itâs completely normal and it is okay. Sometimes we donât feel it sometimes we may over think, but we have to calm our brain down and slow down because we can get ahead of ourselves and push so much negativity down and that creates the worst mental cycle. Donât beat yourself up, donât be hard on yourself. Youâre still loved and are a great person it could be stress or mental Barrier but itâs okay just feel moments out feel like you are able to love and you have no parameters
It is normal to have occasions when you canât perform for whatever reason.
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It happens to more guys than you would think. Nothing is wrong with you. The best thing to do is be open about it, and meditate.
As others have said, itâs not a big deal even though it SEEMS like a big deal. It happens to SO many guys, and women have their own issues too. Weâre all just imperfect humans, and not getting it up on a moment does not define you, make you any more âflawedâ than the next person, and it certainly doesnât make you âless of a manâ. Let it go!
Donât internalize it or overthink it. I found meditation and deep breathing helps tremendously to take the anticipation of sex off my mind. I think you can noticed when itâs more self induced if you can notice your thought patterns right before you have sex or if you think about it too much.
You are not alone, it is way more common than you think.
Itâs not a big deal. Shit happens. You are not valued by your sexual performance with your partner,. You are valued by how you treat them.
Cliche, but it happens, it will get better. For me reframing helped a lot, working my partner, and working on myself. I really focused on my pleasure what did I want, what made me feel good, what made me turned-on and communicating that with my partner. We focus on the penis, maybe for you itâs something else you need to focus on nipples or butt, pleasure or pain. If you are feeling good you will be hard. Be open, unashamed you like your nipples pinchedâŚthen make sure you communicate that etc
I would say donât be scared to be open about it, and talk to your partner/ a trustyed friend or family member. Itâs not a weight that you shoulkd be carrying alone, and talking about can feel like a huge relief. Donât let it be an end all be all, just try to keep your head clear, dismiss those intrusive thoughts, and focus on the pleasure as opposed to the potential failure to get it up.
Thereâs nothing wrong with you. With the right willpower and mindset, you can get to a place where you donât have to worry about it anymore.