Being hard the entire time
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My performance anxiety is a result of watching porn
I need to be ready for penetrative sex always
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Sex before a lifetime commitment is wrong
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That I have to get an erection straight away, rather than allowing foreplay to build my arousal and erection.
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This one is rough. I struggle with this as well. I have a lot of stress in my life at this time and I am just not in the mood. And even when I am, I need some sort of connection to even feel aroused. All of this often makes me feel inadequate and less masculine.
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That penetrative sex is the end all be all of sex.
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Sex only counts if it’s penetrative sex where you finish and I have to get an erection straight away
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That orgasmic climax is the point, rather than just the feeling of physical and sexual intimacy
Has to be penetrative sex and we both have to cum to have had a good time
That my penis is big enough to satisfy. I’m a grower, not a shower. When I’m flaccid I feel like I’m inadequate. When I’m fully erect my size is fine and pleasured many people with it but I can’t shake that it is still not big enough. I am average sized. 6 inches fully erect.
That I need to stay fully rest at all times and I struggle with the idea that everyone is different
That porn can affect how hard you get with a partner
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That I need to be fully prepped to have sex, including not watched porn or comedy recently, be on good form, not have drunk alcohol. I think I look for ways to control preparation because I nervous it will go wrong, which then induces anxiety and makes things worse! Ironically!
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That I have to have a huge dick and it has to be on the edge of uncomfortable for the woman.
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That I should get an erection instantly. That plays on my mind at the start of any sexual activity which leads to overthinking and makes me struggle to perform
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The whole porn causes impotence thing
That you should be rock hard 100% of the time. That you should last 30 minutes
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My problem is I’m single so physical sex with a partner is infrequent and I use porn and masterbation on a frequent basis. Usually nightly. I watch the same type of porn that has a lot of visual stimulation. I use the same routine with masterbation. Although I have an endless supply of seeing exactly the scenes I want with the most perfect visual women I would want. It becomes an absolute normal routine for me. So when I’m with a partner everything is off on my routine. So then the anxiety kicks in and self sabotage from there. I have a romantic getaway in a month. I’m holding off on all porn and masterbation unless it’s in a daily activity on the app. I do use Ed meds. Which also timing is an issue as I’ve never been honest about taking them with my partner which creates more anxiety.
Right now I’m wondering what strategies I can use to think of other ways to be aroused. Porn is so easy and effective, and I’d like partnered sex to be just as easy and effective
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