I believe that porn has affected my mind on real life intimacy. I have disappointed my partner by not getting hard during intimacy, yet I have no trouble getting hard when watching porn alone.
What is the most effective way to overcome porn addiction? And has anyone else been in my situation, and got better once they overcome the addiction?
I’m in the exact same place , it’s killing me my new partner is so beautiful and we get on so well, but it’s just not happening in the bedroom
have you guys already had the busting porn myths section? it (in my experience rightly so) mentions that porn itself is not the problem, but what we make of it. if i were to armchair psychologist you guys i’d go for you putting pressure on yourselves by comparing yourself to unrealistic performance standards (disregarding that guys in porn often use drugs, several hour long shooting session for the final cuts etc.).
beyond that it’s also my personal experience that i just dont work when i feel some sort of performance pressure. it sucks the fun out of it and makes me do the self fulfilling prophecy shit of failing. this holds true no matter what it is induced by.
if possible try to figure out why you pressure yourselves and a way to overcome it. maybe also talk openly to your partner about it. we guys tend to not expect it, but most people are pretty supportive once they know
addendum since i feel like i have gone off the obvious rails; you have no reason to feel pressure with porn alone since it’s just yourself and you have no reason to judge yourself. with a partner you may feel like they may judge you, hence the pressure. build some trust with your partner in that regard and the issues may subside (again, just me armchairing)