Nagging, persistent, distracting, negative, unreasonable, and disappears at stages when I’m in a rhythm focussing on enjoyment
Making me think I will not get hard
Having no experience is what causes the most anxieties for me. I can’t rush into sex.
When I’m alone I still get very erect. It has been difficult for me because there are women who have wanted to have sex with me but the erection was not the same when they try.
My inner critic was a compilation of ex’s that were un caring and didn’t want what’s best for me. They made me feel like I wasn’t worth them
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My dad inner critic is a mix. One portion is myself. I can let anxiety take hold and spiral around the same thoughts. I think about consequences, like my partner shaming me, ridicule, disappointing them. That portion is an ex of mine who was particularly cruel. I have to remember not every partner is as harsh as she was.
My issue is focusing too much on myself and consequences that haven’t materialized when I should be focusing on enjoying my partner’s arousal to create a positive feedback loop.
My inner critic is my voice in my head.
It starts quietly planting seeds of doubt when I first meet and start dating someone and it gets louder the closer I get to a sexual encounter when it is shouting loudly to run away.
My inner critic is myself. I get anxious just thinking about sex and potentially embarrassing myself again or having that terribly awkward situation again. Then if sex is in the horizon, I focus on getting hard which makes it all the worse. I put all my effort into it and then when it doesn’t happen that inner critic pops up asking why this isn’t working and you’ve lost all hope. It’s a spiral from there. Now the next time it’ll be even harder to get an erection because all I’m doing is thinking about how I failed to the last time.
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My inner critic is myself telling myself I can’t do something or I will cum too fast
I suffer from delayed ejaculation. So my inner critic kicks in and says come on dude she’s starting to look bored. Why can’t you cum. Other times when I sense she is getting close my inner critic tells me hey don’t fuck this up she’s almost there, which inevitably leads to a loss of erection. Inner critic takes me out of the moment. It’s an unwanted distraction that I want to destroy.
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My inner critic is myself usually saying something along the lines of “this is going alright isn’t it? Hope you don’t start failing soon…”
It just reply’s things that has happened in the past and then gives me performances anxiety and reply’s it over and over again no voice at all just hits the repeat button
My inner critic is myself. it used to be whenever I would get into the actual, active sex, I would tell myself things would go a certain way and maybe loose my errection. After overcoming that it has more so become something related with foreplay, before even engaging in the act. if things don’t go a certain way, or are done a certain way and my member doesn’t get the attention I think it needs to function, I will automatically shut down and freak out convincing myself it won’t work.
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My inner critic stops me being present during sex and enjoying the moment. Making it more likely I’ll loose my errection.
My inner critic starts with arranging a date or second date, and already picturing sex being most likely a failure. Then spectatoring and being tense during kissing/foreplay, despite feeling that I’m good at it, worrying about the sex starting and that I’m already too in my head to sustain an erection. It’s hard to break out of that zone and just enjoy the moment confidently
More non-verbal flash thoughts of worry of not being hard enough to get it in. Frustration if it doesn’t go in first time. Worry that it won’t go in. Concerns my partner will think I’m not good enough and go to someone else.
He is shallow, he is in the back, he is taking my attention and wanting me to hear him that it’s going to be like last time.
Mine doesn’t have a voice. It gives me the pressure of thinking to hard on my next move during foreplay without being awkward. It tells me that I need to “live in the moment or you’ll go limp”. It puts a lot of pressure on me to be sexually turned on or you’ll be a let down.
Jusgemenral, negative. Critical and non forgiving.
My inner critic is harsh. He knows everything I am
Sensitive about and is relentless.