I am confident that I will be attracted to my partner
I am confident that I am good at foreplay. And i’m confident that I can make my partner reach climax several times. Sometimes I enjoy teasing her before I actually get hard. Sometimes im forced to tease her because I cant get an erection. Even when i’m extremely attracted to her.
I am not confident when I try to penetrate her from behind, I used to always love this and have no issues. But, I simply cant remain hard long enough now 
another is if I take too long to penetrate her because we are adjusting position so we are comfortable. I have often lost my erection in this small moment. Its very stressful and then often harder to get it back.
My inner critic it’s just a variant of myself, a lame voice that seems to be saying “What’s the point of even trying? You won’t get it because you know you’ll fail. By just thinking this, you have set things in motion, you can’t stop this from happening.”
As in, I acknowledge that I might struggle but this makes it a sort of certainty. A self-fulfilling prophecy, in shorter terms.
It’s a worm, an anxious worm. One that whispers at moments early on, hours before sex, replaying times when I couldn’t get hard. Then there’s my voice of reason, that says that I’ve had plenty of wonderful sex. But the worm is there, and gets louder and louder as the time nears. I’ve tried to drown this worm with alcohol, but have found this to be counterproductive half the time and whiskey dick my new companion. I want to learn how to silence that worm, how to have sex the way I know I have and can.
My inner critic starts a few hours in advance and says you’ll disappoint again and questions any presumed confidence I might have
Mines not a voice but since leaving my ex wife and starting a new relationship, I’m struggling to stay hard, it happened the first time we tried, and the memory of that plays in my head as we’re about to have sex. She’s understanding and knows it’s not her so that’s ok. But my inner critic will play on the day we “plan” to see each other and meet up.
My inner critic is sort of a sarcastic old man in the balcony type, the thoughts are usually self heckling
My inner critic is my voice coaching myself,telling myself in the moment don’t lose the erection or telling myself stay calm, don’t think abt getting hard that kind of stuff. I mean the inner critic is trying to help but the pressure of actually trying to stay calm makes me soft, the pressure of not trying to lose the erection makes me lose the erection. My ex was so beautiful wanted to have sex wig hee all the time but couldn’t due to the pressure
It makes me afraid of sex, if i go on a date i will think about it, and hope it doesent come to sex. When i have resolved this problem, my dates eill be so much more relaxed. I am young, so im glad im figuring out this early:)
My inner critic starts reminding me that I need to perform later today. Reminds me to be in the zone. And then in the hours before sex it’s starts to question me. Are you really up for it? CN you get hard? Should you take some viagra? Maybe you should get hard in the bathroom masturbating. And then try?
my inner critic shares my voice, in a condescending undertone, he looks like the devil and he rests in my mind, he tell me im going to go limp when i go to have sex, he tells me ive only got a certain ammount of time left to get hard before its too late, he asks me if my partner actually enjoys what im doing
My inner critic keeps telling me that I’m going to fail, that things won’t feel very good and that I’ll definitely lose my erection. It feels like a pang of anxiety every time I think about sex. It also tells me my partner will be disappointed in me when I do fail.
My inner critic is a smaller version of me. In my head putting pressure on my to keep my erection or shouting “its going to go soon! Do something about it!”. It’s a constant dialogue between me and my inner critic. Before, during and after sex preventing me from even finishing the act on most occasions.
Yeah that didn’t work for me
It’s my own voice stopping me from enjoying what’s happening by playcalling what’s going on.
My inner critic is my own voice. It’s inside my head and is just all doubting. Even if I’m performing, it is just sitting there waiting for me to fail. It’s emotionless and just knows that failure is coming.
My inner critic says things like this…“I need to be careful to stay connected. Non-relational sex isn’t OK. It’s important to take care of others/your partner. It’s wrong if your own pleasure is the priority. You should be a good person. A caring man.” I can see that my reluctance to ‘indulge’ in my own pleasure keeps my sex drive in check.
My inner voice which sounds like me is telling me to make sure to keep it up and with the pressure of focusing on that I lose the erection from there it’s a battle on trying to recover telling myself to make sure to hurry and get it back up
My inner voice says penis go get hard. Don’t fuck up things again
My inner critic is worried, begging for it to work, the more it doesn’t work, the more worried, first it will say we going limp and then will start to get more and more desperate and worried