I think i was viewing porn as a complete no go, and that it was the worst thing ever. making me more anxious about it and then when i did watch it it made me feel like my erection issues would never be solved, this helped me realise that it’s actually probably my anxiety around watching porn that creates these issues. still will try and avoid porn but now i will be mindful it is not the end of the world for my dick if i slip up
I just stress that the porn I watch could be considered weird, and lead to issues down the line
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I don’t know why, maybe my ADHD, but when I’m tired or facing a difficult task i turn to porn for escapism.
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I have been watching porn for so long it’s affected how my mind operates, to the point I feel the pressure more with a partner than a one night stand. A partner who has had a partner before me I feel the pressure of having to be better and give her better orgasms. To the point I can’t even focus on my self just her and as a result have a melt down and begin sweating and over thinking as I can’t relax. A nightstand I’m usually drunk and have no inhibitions. I can be sat watching tv be aroused and want to have sex with my partner but the feel a sense of dread to the point I take a viagra to ensure I maintain a erection.
Very relatable.
I realised that watching porn to jerk off made my brain learn that that’s the only way for me to get hard. I never did it without porn and it was every single day too. Now I’ve quit porn to “reset” for a bit. Going for about 2 weeks now. Trying to learn that my partners body and sex is about to happen is a turn on - not just porn.
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If you let porn become an addiction, normal porn stops getting you hard. Every couple weeks you need to find something a little more novel. Fast forward years and you have 40 browser tabs open, broads of all colors and sizes getting gangbanged, pissed on, incest roleplays, violence… you run outta material. Now like a drug your tolerance is high. A girl wants to have sex and you get her naked and you realize you feel absolutely no arousal at all. Your dicks not jumping even a little because its plain jane. She thinks its cuz shes ugly. Youre embarrassed. Now youre in a catch 22 because you cant quit the porn and you have no bridge to real sex
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Gonna try a reset too
Dude same, I feel like I use it to self soothe too much
I think I need to get more coping mechanisms. If I’m stressed working from home or it’s a been a day, it tends to be the thing that relaxes me. Wondering if it is training my brain to expect porn.
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I’ve learned that for me porn just makes me feel guilty from watching it because it’s not real sex with my real girlfriend and feels like an escape more than a reward. I think I like sexting more for my soul mind and penis
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I want to have a healthy engagement with porn and avoid over use to self soothe
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I would like to reduce watching it and find other ways to self soothe
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I feel as if I’ve watched so much that the habit itself is a constant in my life and I don’t want it to be that way anymore
I watch porn to complete arousal, sometimes I need that extra stimulant. Other times I watch porn because I’m down and need the dopamine
Sometimes I feel I’m addicted because there are times where I watch porn instead of going to bed at a decent hour. But I don’t watch porn every day and I only ever get excited to watch videos when I know I have some spare time for myself. I never find myself craving to watch porn when I’m busy in my daily life. I have noticed that porn gets me harder than real world sex, but I think that’s because there’s more fantasy involved.
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I think for me, the thing that porn has affected me the most is in my expectations of my own performance, thinking I should last for hours. But also, it has stopped my imagination connecting with my sexual self, so I’m developing fewer erotic fantasies and relying more on porn to feel aroused. This didn’t used to be the case, but the more I’ve watched porn in the last 12 months, the more I’ve seen an impact on my sex life. Currently I’m not watching any since I spotted this pattern and it’s helping. I’m not against it, but I want to connect to my body and imagination better.
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Your position on open makes sense however I’ve been reading a lot about the symptoms of Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED) which supposedly rewires the brain to respond to fantasy based sexual activities which affects real world experiences.
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I’ve always considered porn to be a healthy part of my life for 40 years. Then after a painful break up I simply lost interest. Now 2 years later, I realize I have difficulty getting erect, with or without porn. I’ve started again just to wake up my dick, but have no real desire or compulsion
I enjoy the connection with others when sexting or role-playing