With my current partner who’s now my fiancé we agreed from the beginning that we are friends as well, not just romantic partners. So we discuss anything and everything openly and that helps
It’s more about how feel about use of online images than the images themselves. Thinking you have an “addiction” can cause shame and be more of a detriment than the behavior itself.
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This is my problem too. I have no problem getting and keeping an erection while I enjoy porn, but can’t when I’m with a partner even if I imagine some of the the porn I enjoy that I know usually arouses me. I’m also a week in of no porn and have had little desire to have any sexual contact at all, and haven’t even tried to masturbate for that matter.
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I have found that I have started to watch more extreme porn as the more normal stuff was having no effect. Has become a habit more than anything else now.
Whenever I don’t watch porn I feel better and more motivated then I just slip back in and feel bad again. Just need to keep consistent
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The concept of “situational erection issues” really resonates for me. I have had recent trouble getting hard for a partner but have no problems getting hard when going solo with porn.
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Situational erections certainly did sometimes occur when watching porn in the past solo. But with a partner , I struggle even more.
I’ve been off porn for a week and my libido is so low. Maybe it’ll peak back up ??
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Both my boyfriend and I are cool with one another watching porn. But since I am having issues staying hard while topping Im thinking of stopping, at the very least until I can top successfully consistently and ensure that it isn’t an issue.
After reading the ways porn can affect your erection, it’s all starting to click. I would feel terrible for watching porn alone, and my partner was sitting in another room. I never wanted him involved and I felt ashamed. Also, see the penis sizes of the porn actors make things more stressful. I would start thinking to myself, “Why am I not that big” or “how can I make my cock that big”. I have an unhealthy relationship with porn.
I feel like watching a lot of porn and masturbating regularly decreases my sensitivity and thus affects my performance with my partner. When I don’t masturbate and avoid watching porn for a few days, I can be stimulated easily but tend to orgasm faster.
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I started watching types of porn that i feel ashamed about watching, so I have completely stopped for now, and just want to rewire my arousal.
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Trying to slowly ween off porn altogether but if I do watch I try not to watch the extreme stuff
Porn use throughout my life and anxiety around it is a contributing factor to my PE issues. I no longer hold beliefs that it is bad, but I find myself turning to it compulsively for anxiety and stress relief. I want to be more intentional and less driven to just masturbate as quickly as possible to orgasm.
Not to fancy sex as mood booster
I want to limit it. It’s fun in the moment but doesn’t help long term
I don’t whether or not my relationship with porn is unhealthy. I like watching porn because it can make me erect. However the more frequently I watch it, the less it becomes exciting. This can decrease the strength of my erections while masturbating. Is his makes get in my head about being erect while I masturbate.
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The shame part connects
I feel like the situations it presents give me unrealistic desires and it makes it hard to orgasm without a backstory.
Not much new info here for me, personally, but good reinforcement and reminders that a positive “outlook” if you do choose to view pornography is key in getting actual enjoyment out of it.
Look at the end of the day you watch porn to do 3 or 4 thing turn you ,& your partner on
To get nice and horny,learn a few trix of the trade & to either have sex or jerk off to it but you should never feel or be made feel bad for it