While I do look at porn I often rely on my own fantasies or sexual memories to get off and not what I started watching. I often wonder if this was a problem but I don’t have a desire to get with ex partners just be with my current
For me I used masturbation as a nightly routine to go to sleep. I would go to sleep quicker and wake up more refreshed
I had no partner for two years during lockdowns and so have become over used to just my hand as it became quiet operational as a part of my routine
Some positive effects are that I know think of it as a way to retrain my sensations for better sex. I’ve been working on different ways and techniques since I started mojo and it has been helping. Before, it very much felt like an addiction and I feel like it had a drastic effect on how I got aroused before I started having sex with my partner.
The desire to masturbate builds up to quite an intense level so the release of that tension feels good. But I’m aware that it doesn’t have a positive impact on my sexual experiences and so I feel pretty guilty afterwards.
Being present
I’ve significantly cut down on my habits from my younger days. I do think the routine of it was messing with my sexual experiences with a partner.
Positives: Orgasm
Negatives: time consuming, feel guilty, think it’s ruining my sex life
Positive effects are reassurance that I am able to get an erection, pleasure and orgasm. The negative effects are feeling like I am in a routine or not able to relax enough because I am focusing on whether or not I am going to maintain
Let’s me know what I like, but maybe I like that too much
certainly relaxing, but I think it also trains me to have an orgasm in simply the quickest and most efficient way possible, which doesn’t translate to good sex with a partner
Positive sis that it is comforting, I can control the situation, and I can choose what I want to see. Negative that it has create poor expectations, hindered my drive to pursue sex, maybe has aided in PE, and there has been a lot of shame in the past
Positive- orgasm, relaxing, relief of stress/anxiety
Negative - somethings feel like shit after, maybe i go too hard/deathgrip, sometimes I feel like I’m only comfortable with myself.
I know what I like from myself and pleasuring myself is easy. However, I’m so used to pleasuring myself I find it almost impossible to relax and feel pleasure when it’s someone else giving. I almost give up and don’t relax and give them a proper chance.
The positive effects are the release and relaxation I feel afterwards. On the negative side, I’ve realized that I’m using it as an escape, even to the point that there’s a disconnect between my mind and body where I almost pay no attention to anything in my except the sensation in my penis.
positive is it feels good and I know how to get off quick.
Negative is I think I’m addicted to that feeling rather than my partners feelings inside her
I think it’s all about what you masturbate to…
I think after masturbating, I get this post-nut depression. I’ve not masturbated for a few months but yeah every time I have, it hits me
I felt self conscious about it. I started to imagine a woman doing it, got nervous and began spectating.
Positive - quick and easy stress reliever.
Negative - gets me overly accustomed to unrealistic scenarios that aren’t having sex with my wife.
It is negatively addictive.