I love visualizing my girlfriend when I masturbate… but I’m concerned when I don’t get an erection when I’m actually with her.
What are some of the positive and negative effects of masturbation for you?
Positive: self love, release, mental reset.Negative: dependence on unrealistic images and sensations sex with a partner might not be able to replicate.
Positive helps when stressedthe feeling of controlnegativeunrealistic expectationsnot feeling big enoughnot feeling that I look good to my partnerlasting long enoughstaying hard for more than a few minutes
Negative is: makes it easier to climax too early
I think sometimes I need to watch porn to masterbate. Its enjoyable sometimes but sometimes after I just think its disgusting.I have definitely gotten used to the death grip and watching porn
I enjoy porn, but I feel like it is starting to determine what my access to arousal is. So instead of having a partner touching me in my head, I have a scene from a porn video running in my head. It is not sensual or delicate.
Positive - pleasure, stress reliefNegatives - feeling of loneliness, shame, feel like I am to old to masturbate.
positive it can help you rleax and last longer, negative you can get accustomed to a harder grip not natural
It has desensitized the sensations of sex for me.
Since the time I was unable to have penetrative sex I masturbate and subconsciously notice if I am maintaining my erection which is killing the fun. This is my negative. Before that I always enjoyed masturbation but used to masturbate in a prone manner without using hand. But now I use my hand.
Pros- feels good Cons- addictive, feels shameful
Positive: It can be a form of self love. I think it can allow someone to explore themselves, and enjoy themselves. And when coupled with someone else, its a great turnon for the other person to see that you are comfortable with your own body, and enjoy your body. Negative: It can become compulsive. And its possible to use it as a coping mecanism when faced with strong emotions. Sadsturbation is real guys!
Positives - stress relief, fun, find out more about what I like, pleasuringNegatives - I don’t have a ‘death grip’, though I think at one point I may have, but I think I have got used to the sensation of masturbation rather than penetrative sex which makes it hard for me to finish in bed. I feel like porn may also have given me a fake image about what sex should be - what I watch / fantasize about when watching porn I know is not the reality of sex in real life. However, after being single for a long time I have got used to getting off on certain kinks etc which I think is another reason I experience ED during sex. Most of the fantasies I wouldn’t even want to do in real life.
makes me connect to myself more and exercise those thoughts but it desensitizes me to sex sometimes. I feel abstinence to a point is good. It’s helped in the past
Positive effect: creating the feeling of relief, and reducing stressNegative: Feeling shameful afterwards, feeling guilt
I felt at some points i was addicted to masturbating, to even some points id prefer it to actually having sex. Id do it even when not horny, it was like a routine for me. I would then find it hard to be turned on by anything else.
positive: makes me feel excited and relaxed. gives me pleasurenegative: makes me king of relying to mastrubation for pleasure and not actual sex. feel guilty of getting more pleasure from mastrubation rather than actual sex with my partner
Masturbation has become the only way I can get aroused
It makes me feel good in the moment.It might make getting it up more difficult in the end.