Just finished swinging with an incredibly hot couple and my dick worked perfectly!
The first time we hung out with them, I couldnāt get hard. The second time, I got hard but lost it.
This time, I was patient with myself and didnāt worry about the other guy getting hard first. I took my time, focused on my partner and her beautiful body, stayed aware of how my own body felt, stayed aware of the music, the smells, theā¦ sight of my wife with another man while Iām with his wife 
I was able to get rock hard and last through multiple rounds of fun with one of the most beautiful women Iāve been with since my wife and I got into the lifestyle. When I wasnāt being directly touched, I went to half chubb but didnāt stress and knew Iād get it back (and I did). This is one of the best nights in a long time. SUCCESS!
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Hey!!!
Congrats man!!!
What do you think worked for you???
Focusing on the sights sounds and smells, being patient with myself and remembering that I donāt need to get hard immediately. Funny story, I talked to the other guy afterwards and he told me that HE had ED towards the end and he was doubting his performance and I was able to tell him some of the tips I learned and provide some reassurance. Theyāre coming back tomorrow night, we are ājokingā about how we are a quad now 
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Freakin awesome man!!! Way to go using the toolsā¦
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This is very insightful. Because it can be even harder when trying to swing
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Hey Iām new to this and also had in mind I always been wanting to swing any tips on how to start
Feeld is a great app to find other people who are into Ethical Non-Monogamy.
Yea, performance anxiety when swinging is what got me to sign up for this app. I never had a problem with my wife but sometimes swinging involves sex with people you just met that night and if the woman is extra hot, I would get in my head about ānot f#cking up the opportunityā, which of course puts pressure on me and would cause me to have ED issues. Itās ok to be upfront about needing to feel comfortable and plan a low pressure first play session that may or may not include penetrative sex. Itās ok to plan follow-ups and take time to get comfortable.
This is great read! Iām in the same boat, wife and I have been ENM for a couple years and have a great circle of friends we hook up with. I rarely have any issues with the women I know but when I have to engage with someone new I get so caught up in my headā¦
Will she like me, am i doing the right thing, am I going too fast, and before I know it any erection I had is gone because I was too busy thinking rather than being in the moment.
Need to break out of that mindset and approach the situation with the confidence I have with my wife and closer play friends and not doubt myself as much as I do.
Good on ya mate I mean for the wholle swinging side hats you you & your wife but I mean congrats on success with ya cock bro itās a lot of daunting hard work & thatās good out come brother well done
This is āfunnyā in the serious sense of the word. I just joined this app because I have episodes of ED lately. I got into ENM with my wive so I felt like the gods were having a fucking laugh striking me with this just at the moment they blessed me with a ENM partner. Never occurred to me the two were related. Makes perfect sense now in hindsight though