Finally after a couple of weeks finally got it up and had a proper session! Only had this app about 2 days but most importantly being open with my wife about this situation she was very understanding took our time and took some work but I started to settle the panicking went away don’t get me wrong it wasn’t instant but we kept going and boom success when finally in the moment I was back to my old self this last week has been horrendous with aniexty and overthinking but feel so much better! Hopefully positive from now on!…. I found being open and telling my partner everything what’s happening in my head really helped don’t bottle it up there’s nothing to be ashamed of
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That’s my issue, I haven’t been open with my wife in regards to the anxiety and anxiousness that I feel when we are intimate. And I end up Cummings really quick.
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Or I totally lose my erection.
So much of the problem, I believe, are the expectations on our shoulders: instant, continuous, rock-hard erections and cumming (at all or in a certain amount of time). Jesus, it’s a lot. Letting go of all of that and centering the pleasure and connection regardless of what our penis is doing is a solid approach to enjoying sex more (and to being more likely to getting hard).
Honestly the best thing for me is to be open and my wife literally just said to me don’t put pressure on yourself thinking you have to be instantly hard for sex, it will happen when it happens let it come naturally. My main issue was getting in my own head too thinking to myself well shit what happens if she wants it tonight and I can’t get hard and I told her this she just said basically all of the above
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We all I know it’s easier said than done but I do really believe last couple of times now has been a success for me since I was open with her especially the last time we done which was yesterday now I was ready with hardly any work needed