Visual in person vs porn stimulation

🕹️ Porn and masturbation
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I’m just starting use of this app, and optimistic given some of the stories and exercises thus far.

One thing I’m curious about others’ experiences on is re-sensitizing to visual (in person) stimuli. The touch exercises have been good on fixing the hard grip / masturbation issue but I’ve also noticed because of how much more I’ve used porn in the last 5 years, I seem to have less reaction to in person visuals vs porn visuals.

It’s to the extent that I’ll get hard from snap chatting with someone and exchanging pics and videos, but then I’ll meet up with them in person (and find them as attractive if not more so than online), and struggle to get hard. I can know recognize there’s some level of inner critic and anxiety at play but wondering if folks have rewired their brains to me more stimulated by in person visuals after becoming too wired by porn. And what helped the most if so?

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Yes, your brain will rewire slowly. Expect ups and downs with some days where you feel like you’re not getting anywhere. For me it’s been quitting porn, meditating, touch exercises, and most importantly, time.

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I suspect you are experiencing anxiety in person.
With pix & solo there’s no pressure. In person, you unknowingly put a ton of pressure on yourself and your pecker.
There’s an art to learning how to calm yourself down and stay in the moment. I haven’t come close to mastering it…
Things that help me include:
If I lose it- don’t panic. Rub it on her. She loves it. Her responses get me going.
She can help by being understanding and encouraging rather than get hurt by your issue. But she needs to understand the issue is yours- not hers.
I suggested my gf talk kinda naughty or explicit in bed. Don’t laugh. It helps me…