I’m very recently divorced and I haven’t been with a new woman in 12 years. I’m 39 and the new woman is incredibly gorgeous. 10/10. We are doing a weekend trip together in 2 weeks and I want to make sure my libido is stronger, my erections stronger, and I am caught in my head about not getting hard as easily as I want for when the moment strikes. I’m brand new here and already digging into the meditations, but is there anything else you gents suggest? Or natural supplements you like to take?
There is a video explaining how the sex drive and libido is build up, is like a resource that we can fill up, by fantasising, sending erotic or provocative messages, long kisses when saying good bye etc, we get our mind hornier and hornier by every of these we make, when the moment arrives we are like a bomb. This has worked for me.
Try fantasise about this trip with her, any scenario you can. Any simple think during the day can make you imagine some scenario.
The other thing, breathing technique for the thoughts of not getting it up, every time you found yourself thinking bad thoughts, do the breathing. This is like a reset for your brain, you will train your brain to calm easier and quicker, until some point those thoughts are gonna be just thoughts, they are no gonna affect you, your brain will be calmed and eventually you wot have them.
Inhale 4 seconds, hold 4 seconds, exhale 4 seconds, hold 4 seconds with no air, then repeat. You can do as many as you want until you feel calm.
And please don’t treat bad yourself, you will get over this. Just continue and trust the process.
That woman will hardly walk after that weekend man, you will give it all.