Recently entered a new relationship and had my second sexual encounter ever and even though I feel comfortable with her and I find her very attractive and she was really into me, I just couldn’t get hard. After a couple minutes of her using her hand, I figured I was “hard enough” so I decided to try penetration and before she could even get into position, it was gone.
I had this issue my first time (with a different girl) too but i was also very stressed, tired, and anxious that time. But this time, other than feeling slightly nervous, I was fine but still couldn’t get it up. Even alone, my erections don’t really feel “full” like they used to. And she was understanding and sweet and I’m not worried about being judged by her. So why can’t I get it to work? I don’t feel inadequate until after I try and fail. I want to develop a healthy sexual relationship with her but I don’t know if I need a doctor or if it’s somehow purely mental and any advice or perspectives are appreciated
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And I do not watch porn, so that is not an issue. I eat fast food more often than I should, so maybe that is an issue because of high cholesterol?
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For me, this is how I was with my first sexual partner. At first I wouldn’t get hard, then I would only get hard jerking off to her, then I started actually being hard enough to fuck her. In my eyes, it just looks like you have to get acquainted with her first before you feel comfortable enough. TLDR Just keep on trying and you’ll get it in eventually 
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