I recently started dating a friend from 30 years ago we were together sexually all those years it was fantastic. I have trauma from a very bad divorce and from being rejected from past partners. This affected me to get a full erection and have sex with her.
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I’ve been with my parter for 10 years. Something has happened and I can’t get erections with him like I used to. Even though we’re very communicative. I guess life just happens and somehow I’m stuck in my head now in a way I wasn’t in the past. But I’m glad I’m not going to just blame it on age, and I know there is a way forward.
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I ended a 7.5 year relationship and started a new relationship with the girl I loved from basically age 14-19, when we stopped being friends and my relationship started, but I never truly got over her. Anyways, once my 7.5 year relationship and she and I started dating and being intimate for the first time, I initially had issues finishing. It took so long the first 3 times we had sex that I actually just stopped because I started going numb. She wqs very understand as she’s the 2nd girl I’ve evwr had sex with. Then after the 3rd time, I always finish, but I would go soft if we had issues getting it in (she’s really tight) or when switching positions, or in doggy I’d get in my head and start going soft while looking down at my dick and then unfortunately my small, but sometimes bothersome, gut. We found that open communication in the moment heloed calm things down so she wouldn’t think it’s something to do with her, and she learned what words to say to help me feel confident and stay in the moment to continue having sex, or reassure me that it’s okay. She’s had a few partners and told me that she’s experienced these types of things with other men in the past. I was also having issues with initiating sex myself because my 3x made me feel like I was ALWAYS looking for a simple hookup anytime I was in the mood and she wasn’t. Even though we lived together for years and had been having sex for majority of thos 7.5 years. In the 9 months we’ve been together, I now only have occasional issues when it comes to my own self. Lack of confidence in my size, how long I last, my belly (which I have to work on). But now we go for minimum 2 back-to-back rounds once a week, plus sex almost every day, depending on the week. I hope this long spiel can help you and your partner get through your completely normal issues and back to having a healthy, intimate relationship.
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