Hi,
So me and my long term partner are very active but during oral I can’t seem to reach climax but never have the issue during penetration
I’ve found ejaculation to be very much a mental exercise for me, specifically during oral. I like to enjoy the sensations but also know my wife gets tired after a bit. When I know we’re getting to that point I decide it’s time to cum and do so about a minute or so later. During sex I struggle with PE from being too in my head.
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I’m having this exact issue. I’ve been between jobs recently and my GF has been going down on me daily when I wake up. It’s great but for some reason I get the sensations of cum leaving the sack and entering the shaft but I can’t finish ever. She wants me to finish but I always have to finish with my hand instead. I’m thinking maybe years of masturbation has built a neural connection
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Is starting to cause issues as she really wants me to cum but it’s not happening
I’ve had this before too. Just relax and enjoy it. Don’t put pressure on yourself or your brain that you need to cum asap or after x amount of minutes. That just puts worry and pressure on your brain and won’t help the situation.
Hopefully she knows it’s not something she’s doing wrong either. Ad make sure to tell her that if she feels that way. Sometimes it’s hard for me to cum with oral even though it’s fantastic. So youre not alone. Just try to enjoy it and relax and not pressure yourself into cumming fast or even at all. That makes it even harder for me to finish.
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At least your partners are giving oral
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Hey congrats bud on getting oral every morning from your GF! Does she do it on her own? I’ve never been awakened by oral from my wife (married for 12 years, been together for 16). While she does enjoy going down on me, she has never woken me up for any form of sex in the morning (I have always had to initiate). I have brought this up before and she is aware of my wants but it goes in one ear and out the other. I think this is part of the reason why I have ED struggles. When we do have any form of sex it’s always enjoyable and she does cum hard (so will I if I am able to finish). How do you get wife to initiate more? In my head I feel like I will stay hard if I know she wants it more. But generally she is more passive so the onus is on me which I think puts too much pressure. How do I get over this?
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That’s an interesting point you raise. She seems to really enjoy it which helps. I’ve found in this relationship that I go down on her daily aswell (I initiate) and as a result she seems to initiate a BJ or sex with me. I’ve also focused on really building a strong connection with her early in the relationship and actually refrained from sex when we first met to build something emotionally with me first. I’m exactly the same when sex feels like a chore for her or she isn’t the mood and I am trying I go soft and can’t get it going. When she is up for it it’s easy. I think this is nothing new as women really do hold most of the cards when it comes to sex. I think making your partner aware that when she seems like she wants it it’s better for us. ( I mean I don’t want to feel like I’m sexally wrongdoing my GF that isn’t nice). So telling her that your horniness or hardness is somwhat edependent on her attitude towards it might help).