Does anyone have the issue where it takes forever to cum from sex or blowjobs? I mean they always feel great and I get very hard but but it won’t stay. I will feel myself get close to that desired release and then the sensation just stops. Will keep going to see if I can cum and eventually then I will lose being hard and cannot continue (even after my wife has cum). I actually wish I could regularly enjoy a quickie (and so would my wife). How does one become able to cum more quickly? We’ve sped things up but also as soon as I start to sweat I will also go limp.
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I’ve got the same issue and it’s pretty frustrating actually. I don’t want my partner to feel like it’s something she’s doing wrong, because she’s not, it feels fantastic but just as I begin to approach climax it just disappears on me. I’d love to know how to get past this issue.
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I also have this problem, though I think it has more to do with me struggling to enjoy the sensation. I feel like I get into my habit of visualizing the stuff I masturbate to but then not knowing how to be present with the sensation and direct her in a way that helps me get closer to climaxing. Then I get soft and start worrying about how she’ll feel about it
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In the same boat here.
Sometimes the initial penetration brings me right to edge of cumming within a few thrusts. I feel like that is WAY too soon to be a satisfying session for either of us, so I stop myself from climaxing at that point but then can never get back to that level of arousal. Eventually my wife gets sore and annoyed that it’s taking so long so we just sort of stop.
Things will be going along great, until I catch hints that she’s ready to wrap up and that “ok, time to cum” internal pressure just shuts down my whole works.
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Going through the same thing. Trying to train myself out through toys though just coz I’m used to climaxing on superhuman pressure and speed.
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Same problem here. Hoping to find courses on this platform about Delayed Ejaculation. I’m on day 5 now and haven’t encountered any. Tips would be very welcome!
My partner has brought it up that it’s frustrating for her when her bjs and everything else she tries doesn’t get me off. She says she loses the sexual connection we have. It’s obviously very hard to hear that and gets in my head too.
I’ve stopped masterbating and watching porn entirely. 100% quit. It’s been only 2 weeks, but the sex we had today was great. We actually came at the same time!
I’ve also been going down rabbit holes on Reddit about libido etc. One simple thing I’ve picked up is hydration. Like 4L of water a day which is way more than I normally drink. That, and a lot of intriguing anecdotes of various supplements.
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I’ve only ever come once in a bj. I’ve always had the same response. I think sometimes its too intense and you can’t just go over the edge.
Do you have a clear idea of whether to cum in situ so to speak? I know partner doesn’t like this so I think that puts me off cumming.