Hi all!
I’ve been watching a bunch of YouTube videos and channels from people proclaiming they studied Tantric techniques and are preaching non-ejaculation orgasm. I’m trying to figure out what the deal is. It sounds like being able to get oneself to an edge and ramp down tension through relaxation, breathing and even visualizing energetics in the spine. And supposedly they can experience a prolonged subtle state of orgasm, different from orgasm during ejaculation, and eventually they supposedly can develop this to feel even more intense than ejaculatory orgasm.
Generally, they seem to downplay ejaculatory orgasm, saying it’s nothing, only lasts few seconds, etc. Basically, they’re trying to sell this idea of the prolonged state of orgasm being better. They proclaim benefits of no drop in dopamine and rise of prolactin that causes the refractory period when ejaculation occurs, by bypassing it. Generally, they seem to advocate for limiting how much you ejaculate in your day to day and sexual encounters. And so, they are proposing sexual encounters that don’t necessarily end with ejaculation.
Thing is, these guys talking about this admit that they’ve never had a problem with delayed ejaculation (DE), that if anything at the beginning of their exploration they struggled with premature ejaculation (PE). And while I can easily play with that line where edging occurs during masturbation, during partnered sex I cannot so easily as I can typically struggle with delayed ejaculation.
And so, I wonder what the deal is. Has anyone else heard about this? These guys are trying to have sex without necessarily ejaculating. Here I am unintentionally doing this through DE, haha.
Anyway, they advocate practicing masturbation like this, not ejaculating at the end. I find I cannot do this, as it would be extremely frustrating after edging for 30-40 minutes, to simply never allow myself to cum and just stop. I’m skeptical of the benefits. And truthfully, I wonder if not cumming at a regular frequency might increase chance of prostate cancer, anyway …
And for me, DE can still occur even if I do nofap for a period of time before a partnered sexual encounter (which nofap is different than the “sexual kungfu” spoken of before), in fact I may feel my erection is less reliable through my desire and libido shutting off as part of going into monk-mode through nofap. I feel there’s kind of a sweet spot in having to continue to exercise my sexual impulse and libido in order to be confident in my sexual energy when with my partner, a “use it or lose it” scenario.
In any case, they tend to cite ancient Tantric sources proclaiming the need to save our vitality, that if we cum we are depleting our energy stores. And of course, there’s refractory period to contend with in so doing (which I don’t personally feel I have a long refractory period, at age 37). But anyway, personally I feel the frustration of not letting myself cum when I can in a sexual experience is more detrimental than the so-called depletion through cumming they are highlighting. I only feel there is a sense of energy depletion if cumming compulsively and excessively, which by that point there’s an addiction to it which has its own problems. Personally, when I can feel myself able to get to the point of cumming while having partnered sex, I don’t feel like squandering that opportunity as with DE being able to cum while with a partner can feel like an achievement.
And so, I’m just wondering what is the point of this so-called sexual Kungfu these YouTube channels are trying to get at.
What do you guys make of this? Had you come across this before?