Trouble bottoming

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Has anyone had a difficult time bottoming. No matter what I do I just can’t open up. I’ve tried breathing pushing and everything else. I’ve become very frustrated and I can’t seem to talk to my partner about it. Bottoming is something I really want to do because I see how others enjoy it so much. I need help.

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So at first I couldn’t do it either, but then I bought an average sized dildo and tried it slowly and in my pace. Try it in different positions and use enough lube. Another factor, that made me always tense up, was the fact that I was afraid of making a mess. I started experimenting in the shower and this took my anxiety away. These tips might help you too

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Some things that worked for me as an insanely tight bottom…

  1. Your partner should not rush you. Climb on top if you need to keep control. And maybe he doesn’t fully penetrate the first handful of times. That’s fine.

  2. There are dildo trainer sets that come in graduated sizes. Start small and use lots of lube. Take your time and don’t rush.

  3. Search for how to properly clean. This is a good guide https://howtocleanyourass.wordpress.com

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Another guide https://www.sfaf.org/collections/beta/anal-douching-safety-tips/

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I used to have a lot of trouble with this and now it’s a lot better. Not perfect but much better:
‐ Play with your hole first, THEN add lube. If you can avoid douching, consider skipping it or just doing a little. The wetter you are at the start, the less you will open up.

  • Set aside time to train yourself. Go really, really slow. Do it alone when you are first starting and maybe even keep it that way.
  • Once you are ok with dilators, try plugs for a bit. I highly recommend the WMCBP sets from Mr. S Leather for this.
  • Take your time. Seriously.
  • Try different positions: riding, laying back, ass up.
  • Keep some lube in the shower and pop a finger or two in there periodically. You’re already in the shower, so the stress of making a mess isn’t there.
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I have the same problem from time to time. I didn’t bottom for years and when I started again, it just wouldnt happen. I tried plugs and dildos and all it did was hurt.
I was at my wits end so I tried some amyl. It took some time but using dildos with amyl, solo to get used to it, was a great solution. You have to be careful not to overdo it though. It’ll still take time.

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I’ve had issues giving sometimes too. I’m well hung but have learned some techniques as well so maybe not all you