Struggle to get out of my head

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Hey guys. 28-year-old gay guy here. I can’t remember when it started but I can be hard when having fun with another guy but as soon as me topping is mentioned, I lose my erection. The chatbot on here says to switch my focus and think about other things but I can’t get out of my head and it becomes a vicious circle. Any tips?

I have even lost my erection twice with guys when we weren’t even discussing penetration, just playing around. It creates anxiety and embarrassment as I have to finish him off and I’ve lost my sex drive, plus he tries to get me started again by touching my penis but it’s gone into hibernation :joy: not sure what to do really… haven’t tried pills yet and don’t really want to as I’m still relatively young lol. So I end up bottoming a fair bit or trying to have BJs or wanking sessions but most guys tend to want more…

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Very relatable right now - I’ve had the same situation for a long time due to internal pressure but I have found that breathing exercises do help to keep me grounded in my body!

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I know that exact feeling and sometimes I’ll even get in my own head when I’m excited to top. The important part is to not beat yourself up about it. I know not everyone is so gentle and understanding but every victory counts. Take pride in getting hard when you can look down at yourself and really look at your penis. I have had some very good experiences lately and just recently one that didn’t go exactly as planned. If you got hard and got it in and lost it, take pride in that you got inside him and how good it felt and that next time will be better.

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