24 y/o and queer, primarily am the top in sexual situations. i definitely have some sexual trauma combined with mental health struggles (meds make sex more difficult for sure haha)… BUT, while I’m able to get hard and stay hard for other sexual activities, as soon as I try to top someone I lose my erection completely. My mind starts racing, I’ll feel horribly anxious— it’s so emasculating and frustrating.
anyone relate to this? and how have you worked on it? i’m honestly surprised by how much this has impacted my self worth. it sucks to now feel like i can’t have sex, even though my drive is still high.