Does anyone else experience this? For me, getting and maintaining an erection is easiest when I know I’ll be on top with my girlfriend.
When she goes on top though, I lose my erection. I don’t know why. I think it has something to do with me being afraid I might slip out and hurt myself due to the angle. But I wonder if there’s something more deep rooted though around me being in a more vulnerable position.
Does anyone else experience this? Did you manage to overcome it?
I have heard people talk about position dependent erectile disfunction. Is it also that way for you solo (lying down versus upright)? If yes, there might be some physical issue. If no, then it’s probably just a mental issue. I personally prefer being on top (missionary or doggy style) more because I am more in control of the pace, so it is a bit easier to maintain my erection and reach orgasm in that way.
I used to hate her going on top, I just could never stay hard, I’d lose focus somehow like there were too many distractions and it would just fade. Some of the exercises on here are akin to soft penis pleasuring inspired by tantra (I think) and when you accept the ebb and flow of hardness and it not a lost cause it just requires more focus and that really helped. Being slightly selfish about how it feels for you, because if you aren’t enjoying it then it falls apart pretty quick. One day we ended up at a kinda orgy environment with all sorts of kinky whipping going on around us (absolute worst nightmare combination of position and distractions and insecurity) and she was on top for a good 20-30 minutes to the point where we were soaked in sweat and collapsed exhausted. What I’m saying is it’s 100% conquerable once you stop stressing about hardness and focus on the sensations and don’t disconnect from what is happening!