I consider myself to be straight. Only ever attracted to women, no interest in men. Recently Iāve found myself being attracted to trans women more than biological women. When I have sexual fantasies they are mostly about trans women and I find myself being more interested in having sex with trans women than biological women. I have no interest in men, ādickā on a man or being fucked but some of my fantasies involving trans women involve me touching and sucking that area of the trans woman alongside of course the usual fantasies of fucking the woman etc. My attraction to trans women started with stumbling across a trans porn video and finding it strangely (to me at the time) arousing. This led to me watching this kind of porn occasionally alongside regular straight porn. I then lost my virginity to a trans woman and she is the only woman I have been with so far. Now I am mostly only interested in trans porn and dating trans women. I am still attracted to biological women just it seems to a lesser extent than trans women.
I am wondering whether this is normal? What this means for my sexuality? (political views aside, I am interested in the science) and if there is anyone else in a similar situation?
Cheers all
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I relate to your attraction to trans porn. Iām also a straight male, but my curiosity and interest with trans women hasnāt gone beyond porn and sexual fantasies.
Iām not too worried about what this all means about my sexuality. I enjoy women, even if those women have a penis. So if I need a label I stick with straight.
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I consider myself more straight than bi because I mainly am attracted to women but Iāll admit years ago I saw some trans porn and was strangely turned on by it. Now I do watch gay porn occasionally and I enjoy the thought of getting fucked by a guy in my ass. But if I fantasize about trans women itās always me fucking them. Overall though I fantasize about women. Sexuality it weird
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I also consider myself straight, itās the woman Iām attracted to not the genitalia. Not that the label particularly matters anyway.
I am glad to know that Iām not alone in being attracted to trans women. What Iām more concerned about is if itās normal for me to be more attracted to trans women than biological women. Whenever I fantasise about sex it is almost always with a trans woman.
Could this be a genuine sexual preference explained by science? Or is it just a fantasy taken too far that I have reinforced through porn use and only having been with a trans woman?
Any input appreciated
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I think itās just what turns you on and youāve had a trans woman experience that Iām assuming you enjoyed which reinforces the attraction
Yes I lost my virginity to a trans woman and Iāve not been with anyone since as until recently we were in a relationship. Whenever I have sexual fantasies they are about trans women, biological women still turn me on but to a lesser extent. Iām not ashamed of being with trans women, Iām just curious as to whether itās possible I will only ever want to date trans women or if thatās something I wonāt know until I have dated a biological woman also?
Maybe try dating a biological woman. See how it goes. It seems like youāre interested in it
Hey, Iām not sure the āanswerā to this will be of any help to you really - what is ānormalā anyway? Science as such may not really answer this question- such an attraction is not useful from an evolutionary perspective for example. Iām straight too and recently watched porn with guys and trans men ( so guys with vaginaās basically) and found that interesting - but is that ānormalā? - well there must be a group interested in this but hard to argue it would be a majority of people. And thatās fine. Try not to stress yourself and accept that you enjoyed your relationship
recently and you may enjoy cis women too and /or guys as well - who knows , explore safely and enjoy the ride.
Sexuality is always a spectrum. And fantasy is fantasy. You had a fantasy and an experience thatās coherent with that. Probably similar to having a fantasy about driving a formula one car. You can watch it, think itās cool, try it out but at the end of the day, itās probably not something you would to drive your family around in and get to work. Ultimately, the companionship, support, love, and life building youāre most likely to experience is with a woman. Youāre not wrong for having fantasies, this is your life and what you enjoy from time to time doesnāt define you as a person. Try dating and hanging out with women, because sometimes the person to person intimacy, the emotional intimacy, and the care that you will get from a genuine relationship will make you want to be connected physically with that person. Itās all energy bro, try not to overthink it. Thereās nothing wrong, youāre just a human experiencing your life and body however you want. Thatās your right and it is not societyās concern how you want to live. Personally, Iād maybe dial down the porn. Not because itās inherently bad, but because the media we consume can shape our perception. The same goes for books music and everything. Take care and look after yourself. Iām not trying to be right here, just offering an alternative perspective. Wishing you all the best in your journey 
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I like this. Yeah its soo true. I have only dated men usually older men. Never found women attractive, Iām usually going for the daddies. Well haha until recently. I ate my friend out and LOVED it! But Iām not like attracted to women usually. So yeah totally a spectrum.
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I think it sounds like trans women are just what youāre naturally drawn to and get arousal from and thatās just a simple fact! Whether you think youāll only ever be with trans women or not is entirely up to you, but also through living life and meeting people Iām sure you will evolve and get to explore more sex and relationships with women, if it comes to you. I guess my opinion is to just go with the flow and follow what excites you and donāt worry about the labels as much.
As long as youāre enjoying yourself! I personally consider myself straight however started my exploration watching live cam sites and found myself getting aroused watching menās cams masturbating and engaging with them. I experimented streaming on these cams myself a little bit and found myself masturbating with other men! And we will message each other about having sex with women, but also are turned on with the act of masturbating together. Itās fun for me and turns me on! But I donāt know if Iāve ever thought of what it means for my sexuality. I donāt sort of wonder, because I also donāt see myself wanting to in person touch another man in any way, but virtually masturbating together is somehow enjoyable to me. Strange, I know! Haha but it is what it is
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With the utmost respect, being attracted to a biological man makes you gay, in your case probably bi.
I have found myself attracted only to the equipment but not the man. Straight otherwise
I have had this phase for a while. It sometimes comes back.
First and foremost, you like what you like, no matter what label you or others like to put on it. If trans women arouse you, thereās nothing wrong with it.
For me personally it really feels like a fetish. I was at a point where I watched a lot of porn, and noticed decreased libido and less arousal from regular porn. I got into more SM like porn, and always liked women fucking other women with a strap on.
One day I saw this video of a trans pornstar wanking, and I found an arousal I didnāt have for a while. I then got into trans porn, and when I watched porn it was often trans porn.
I donāt see myself as bi, since I donāt get aroused by males, but somehow persons that look like women in every aspect but have a dick, do excite me. Itās purely a fetish thing as I think the taboo that I make of it myself also excites me.
I love my girlfriendās pussy and soft titties. I canāt imagine myself being with some biological male with a dick and some hard fake tits for a considerable amount of time. I did enjoy trans porn for a while though. Itās sexy stuff to me. If that makes me bi, I fully accept that. But I know myself and I donāt get turned on by a biological male without the feminine traits that trans porn stars usually have.
I donāt agree. For a lot of people itās just a fetish. It certainly is for me. I never got turned on by a male, but trans pornstars usually look really feminine. Iām not even interested in engaging in sex with a trans person, but thereās something about the fantasy of a beautiful woman having a dick in porn that excites me. I think most guys who watch trans porn identify as heterosexual as they are attracted to the feminine traits in combination with the male body part, penis. If the body is not feminine, I donāt get aroused by the D either. Itās probably strange to somebody who never got into trans porn, but I wouldnāt call it bi.
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Ill be honest, what this seems like to me is an over consumption of pornography or an addiction. This was something that happened to me a while ago. The brain works in a weird way and chases novelty. When consuming porn, the brain floods itself with dopamine however as we continue to watch the same type of porn, it essentially gets boring. Thats why a lot of people will never really watch the same video multiple times. The receptors in our brain become desensitised to this level/type of porn and so start to look for more novel things to provide even more of a dopamine boost to try and make us feel even better, just like the first time we ever saw porn. This can lead to watching things that are more graphic, go against your sexuality or even go against your morals. I had the same thing with watching trans porn tbh and had fantasies of being with them. After cutting out porn entirely and my brain going back to normal levels of dopamine and going back to normal levels of sensitivity this fetish which really wasnt me went away and i went back to my natural sexuality. Porn is really not natural and does bad things to the brain
Nothing wrong with this! Everyoneās different and gets their kicks in a different way. I donāt agree with all of these people saying that this is a result of porn use. Trans women are real people, not just a category on Pornhub.
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I fully can understand this. Iām not attracted to the man but if a cock looks good I can be turned on by it. But still much more into a female figure
This is perfectly normal and I wouldnāt worry about this at all. Maybe itās because Iāve been rolling in the sex coaching and conscious sexuality arena for quite a while but I think itās massively important that we just let the fluidity of our sexuality flow and not question it too much. Straight and gay are just labels that donāt encapsulate the totally of your mind and bodyās wants, needs, and fantasies. I think people put too much weight on ādoes this make me gayā when what should it matter if it makes your feel happy and fulfilled?
Having known, lived with, dated, and loved trans and non-binary people, theyāre human beings with their own hopes and fears and lives to live, so it is important that we just donāt relegate them to a porn category (just like the whole BBC supremacy thing and interracial fetishisation can be massively problematic).
Sexuality is a spectrum that moves and flows with time. Donāt stress about it too much and just do what feels good. If thatās being attracted to trans women, then awesome.