I consider myself to be straight. Only ever attracted to women, no interest in men. Recently I’ve found myself being attracted to trans women more than biological women. When I have sexual fantasies they are mostly about trans women and I find myself being more interested in having sex with trans women than biological women. I have no interest in men, ‘dick’ on a man or being fucked but some of my fantasies involving trans women involve me touching and sucking that area of the trans woman alongside of course the usual fantasies of fucking the woman etc. My attraction to trans women started with stumbling across a trans porn video and finding it strangely (to me at the time) arousing. This led to me watching this kind of porn occasionally alongside regular straight porn. I then lost my virginity to a trans woman and she is the only woman I have been with so far. Now I am mostly only interested in trans porn and dating trans women. I am still attracted to biological women just it seems to a lesser extent than trans women.
I am wondering whether this is normal? What this means for my sexuality? (political views aside, I am interested in the science) and if there is anyone else in a similar situation?
Cheers all
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I relate to your attraction to trans porn. I’m also a straight male, but my curiosity and interest with trans women hasn’t gone beyond porn and sexual fantasies.
I’m not too worried about what this all means about my sexuality. I enjoy women, even if those women have a penis. So if I need a label I stick with straight.
I consider myself more straight than bi because I mainly am attracted to women but I’ll admit years ago I saw some trans porn and was strangely turned on by it. Now I do watch gay porn occasionally and I enjoy the thought of getting fucked by a guy in my ass. But if I fantasize about trans women it’s always me fucking them. Overall though I fantasize about women. Sexuality it weird
I also consider myself straight, it’s the woman I’m attracted to not the genitalia. Not that the label particularly matters anyway.
I am glad to know that I’m not alone in being attracted to trans women. What I’m more concerned about is if it’s normal for me to be more attracted to trans women than biological women. Whenever I fantasise about sex it is almost always with a trans woman.
Could this be a genuine sexual preference explained by science? Or is it just a fantasy taken too far that I have reinforced through porn use and only having been with a trans woman?
Any input appreciated
I think it’s just what turns you on and you’ve had a trans woman experience that I’m assuming you enjoyed which reinforces the attraction
Yes I lost my virginity to a trans woman and I’ve not been with anyone since as until recently we were in a relationship. Whenever I have sexual fantasies they are about trans women, biological women still turn me on but to a lesser extent. I’m not ashamed of being with trans women, I’m just curious as to whether it’s possible I will only ever want to date trans women or if that’s something I won’t know until I have dated a biological woman also?
Maybe try dating a biological woman. See how it goes. It seems like you’re interested in it
Hey, I’m not sure the “answer” to this will be of any help to you really - what is “normal” anyway? Science as such may not really answer this question- such an attraction is not useful from an evolutionary perspective for example. I’m straight too and recently watched porn with guys and trans men ( so guys with vagina’s basically) and found that interesting - but is that “normal”? - well there must be a group interested in this but hard to argue it would be a majority of people. And that’s fine. Try not to stress yourself and accept that you enjoyed your relationship
recently and you may enjoy cis women too and /or guys as well - who knows , explore safely and enjoy the ride.
Sexuality is always a spectrum. And fantasy is fantasy. You had a fantasy and an experience that’s coherent with that. Probably similar to having a fantasy about driving a formula one car. You can watch it, think it’s cool, try it out but at the end of the day, it’s probably not something you would to drive your family around in and get to work. Ultimately, the companionship, support, love, and life building you’re most likely to experience is with a woman. You’re not wrong for having fantasies, this is your life and what you enjoy from time to time doesn’t define you as a person. Try dating and hanging out with women, because sometimes the person to person intimacy, the emotional intimacy, and the care that you will get from a genuine relationship will make you want to be connected physically with that person. It’s all energy bro, try not to overthink it. There’s nothing wrong, you’re just a human experiencing your life and body however you want. That’s your right and it is not society’s concern how you want to live. Personally, I’d maybe dial down the porn. Not because it’s inherently bad, but because the media we consume can shape our perception. The same goes for books music and everything. Take care and look after yourself. I’m not trying to be right here, just offering an alternative perspective. Wishing you all the best in your journey
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