I’m 27 guy straight , I always watch porn while masturbating. Two year ago I got bored of normal porn so I started watching gay porn I liked it then I started chatting men masturbating together and even I played in my ass and it’s so sexy
But I have never get attracted to men.
I stopped watching gay porn and I got a girlfriend we enjoy so much together but It is sometimes difficult to me to get hard and sometimes difficult to keep hard if I didn’t take a medication otherwise if I watched gay porn I get hard rock in one second
I am a big guy and I haven’t had sex with men before and I don’t want, I just feel like I have a brain blockers and I can’t solve this!!
Can anyone help me??
Anyone had the same experience?
Hey 
Sexuality is a scary thing, and something that is sometimes difficult to get your head around! The important thing is that you don’t need to label things, and it’s often more fluid then what people often think.
Some people like men, some people like women and some people like everyone. There might be days where you feel more attracted to your girlfriend, and others when you might be more interested in men and that’s totally normal!
It’s also important to remember that just because you like the idea of certain things, that doesn’t mean you’re gay. You could be bisexual, pansexual or anything else.
If you’re happy with your girlfriend, then that’s all that matters right now but if you’re confident she’ll be okay with things, it may be worth talking to her about it. Or a friend if you don’t want to talk to your girlfriend.
The main takeaway is that just because you enjoy gay porn, and masturbating with men that doesn’t mean you’re “gay”. But you aren’t 100% straight either, and that’s okay.
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Thanks for your reply
For me in real life I have never tried to get men’s attraction I always try to attract women
Even I get approached alot by men in streets but I don’t feel anything to men
I have a very strong erection when I watch gay porn
But I can never have the same erection with my girlfriend even after I stopped watching any gay porn for one year now
So I dont know if I have ED and need medication or my problem is mentally
I think it’s probably a bit more complex than just saying “I don’t feel anything towards men” as some of the things you’ve done before suggest otherwise, but again that’s okay.
If you have that sort of feeling, it does seem as though you have some attraction to men that maybe is more difficult to come to terms with since you want to be straight.
Either way, I think it’s important to consider that you may not be 100% straight and have certain feelings where men might excite you more on certain occasions.
ED doesn’t sound likely (but I’m not an expert), more that you’re in your head and maybe confused about wanting to be with your girlfriend but finding men more arousing.
Your mental health is important, so it’s also important to not put pressure on yourself by trying to label what you might be. What is important is just figuring out what makes you happy.
You might now want to hear this, but I had the same experience and was married for 25 years, then I started watching gay porn, like you. I did start to jerk off with men and when one guy reached over and jerked me off. I was so excited and at the same time full of shame and guilt. I was married happily etc etc. Even through all the guilt and shame, for me, not saying you, I felt there was something there. Something I liked. And when I accepted I was on the spectrum, it was way easier to acknowledge my enjoyment with men and women. i have since come to realize I am gay, not saying you are, but you
are on spectrum and you ARE worthy of love and self kindness. just embrace that. good luck. and as a side note. this happened when i was 58 years old.
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Sexuality is fluid and you where expirmenting. Nothing wrong with that
Similar. I have been married 20 years to my wife. Never been with a guy but have dabbled in gay porn before amd this has led to a few fantasies, then more recently when my wife and I stopped having so much sex, I started watching gay porn again. In my mind it was better than watching straight porn as it wasn’t cheating on her. Now I find i have a few issues keeping hard during sex, and I find my mind wondering over to gay porn. I don’t want to get with a man, but maybe I am less than straight? At the end of the day who do you actually love? I love my wife and she’s the one I am working on improving my sex life with. Everyone is on the sex spectrum somewhere. Don’t sweat it, work it out.
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The problem is that I am just 27 years old very healthy and muscular
So to struggle to get hard with my sexy girlfriend is really shameful for me
And I don’t want to keep taking viagra as I really don’t need them
At the same time I dont want to be with men at all
It’s really so difficult on me
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Do you want to explore this side of your sexuality? You’re young. Why not?
Sorry, missed one line in your reply about not wanting to be with men.
Thinking about it and acting on it are different in my mind. I have rationalised it as I enjoy all kinds of people getting off, there’s nothing wrong with that.
Maybe take some time to explore the reasons why you find it shameful?
I’m a straight man and only been with women…till about two years ago. It started out with watching gay porn mainly out of boredom. Then I started using a toy in my ass which I felt ashamed about and also really enjoyed. I finally opened up with a female friend I often had sex with and she agreed to use a strap on on me. Also felt incredible. The guy I was with was unfortunately kind of small and I have come to the realization that I’m not so much attracted to men as I am a good sized cock. So he only ate my ass out and I grinded my ass on him. Again it felt incredible but I wasn’t really into the entire aspect and he never penetrated me(except his tongue). I’m much more attracted to women and prefer women but sometimes I still wish I could take a good dick in my ass. I still have shame but I’m with a great gf right now and don’t want to mess that up.
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What is it about gay porn that gets you hard? That might help you to understand what gets you sexually excited.
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