What do u think it is if I only been with women but think about guy on guy sex all the time I watch gay porn to masturbate I’m so confused
I think it could be rather nuanced - if you have the space within your relationship to experimenting with a man it might give you more experiential information. Fantasies and interests in porn don’t always translate 1:1 with actual experiences/real life pursuits. I would lean into the curiosity, it could be a journey of discovery and your destination is hard to define before exploring.
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Sexual attraction is a wide spectrum with a lot of variety, and we can land on any (or multiple) parts of that continuum without necessarily having to define or categorize our desires. Maybe you are into both men and women, and it’s great that you’re acknowledging and exploring it! Maybe give it a try in person, 1:1, as was already suggested. Wishing you the best!
I’m going to suggest that you might be pansexual. If I had to identify, that’s where I’d sit. I can appreciate a good looking guy, am not turned on by gay sex, but not repulsed either. My partner and I switch and she uses a strap on and takes the dominant role, so try not to worry. I would have no problem with a with my partner and another man, but only for her pleasure; I have no interest in being penetrated or penetrating a man. If you do end up having any sex with guys and you would again, I’d say that you are bisexual which again is no big deal.
I love women and am emotionally and physically turned on by women but I can enjoy man on man porn. I am also not into guys but I can get turned on by looking at a good looking hard dick. I’ve also taken a strap on in my ass and I have really enjoyed it but I’ve never been fucked by a real cock but i wouldn’t be against trying it. But I’m not turned on at the idea of fucking another guy in the ass. What turns us on is so broad and yes, confusing. We’re too hard on ourselves when it comes to sexuality
I agree with the other posters here about the nuances within sexuality and sexual desire. I think religion and society has created false narratives and nonexistent binaries. The medicalization of homosexuality came about 120ish years ago. Before then homosexuality wasn’t a concept.
In Christianity, sodomy pertained to any can kind of sexual act that was not vaginal intercourse (i.e. oral sex), not just male on male anal sex. The sin of Sodomy was not about homosexuality being a sin but engaging in sex as a pleasurable act rather than solely for procreation.
Humans have mirror neurons. When we see, hear, or imagine other guys getting sexual pleasure a part of our brain plays that out in our mind.
Getting turned on by another guys boner or sex story can sometimes easily turn us on because our brains play out us being in that position. It’s pretty natural.
The exploration and understanding other males bodies and experiences helps us to understand our own. I think not being exposed to other naked men regularly and only through porn has f’d up a lot us.
Sex is also about availability. If there were situations in the past where men were isolated from women for long periods of time you know there would be some man on man action going down (I.e. sailors).
Human sexuality is flexible. It’s the same with food, we may have strong preferences but will end up eating what is available. Just because there are only vegetables to eat does not make one a vegetarian (another label society has invented).
I think for you this is a personal journey of self-exploration. Experiment and see what you like. You only like women, no harm done. You only like men, you’ve had a well rounded sexual experiences. You like both, than you got a lot of potential partners.
There’s no right or wrong so try not to get hooked on labels or what others perceptions may be.