I am 32 and in good shape and met with a urologist and had bloodwork done. It seems my ED issues are in my head. I also had testicular cancer 6 years ago as well as a surgery on my remaining testicle for a vericocele vein. I had a semen analysis done and confirmed I have good swimmers still. My partner however has seemingly given up as this has been an issue for years. I am doing everything I can and having sessions with a sex therapist. I have not used porn for about a month and only masturbated for my semen analysis since. I hope to have so sort of sex drive but not much yet. I am also taking tadalafil daily but I think my anxiety around it all is blocking that out. Has anyone overcome the psychological side of ED?
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I have made significant progress. For me, it was processing some trauma with my dad, who was very perverted, and I vowed to be nothing like.
Your cancer probably fucked with you mentally. Subconsciously you may have very deep beliefs about your testicles and penis being damaged, preventing them from activating properly.
Good luck. You can do it
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I’m slowly over comeing it and getting there last night I had stress free sex for the first time in a while no issues at all, it’s possible man you got this
Have you done the sensate focus sessions? Is your partner open to doing these with you? This has been a help doing this with my partner, we’ve only done it twice but already I’m seeing results keeping in the moment with her and enjoying the feelings of being close vs goal oriented sex.
She’s actually loved the sensate focus more than me.
I’ve found doing it when you’re aroused is best. Do the session and then finish and no sex, go have dinner or what we, chat about it. Then later be intimate.
No magic bullet but one thing that has helped me a bit, still losing it and having moments brother, but getting better