Transitioning from foreplay to intercourse is where the issues will happen, if they happen. Usually I’m wanting them to touch me down there to keep me hard, but if they don’t do that and want to go straight for sex then panic sets in even before I reach for the condom.
When my partner starts getting vocal “Harder!” “Harder!”
Transitioning from foreplay to intercourse and putting on condoms both can be erection killers sometimes. With the transition its because I get hyper-aware about whether we spent more time than is necessary doing foreplay, and with the condoms I remember times when I put on condoms that were too tight and disrupted my erection and those flashbacks are also erection killers
Changing positions for some reason freaks me out
For me I noticed when I receive oral sex from the woman I can get hard and stay hard. But when it’s time to transition to regular sex, sometimes it’s hard to maintain the erection. This is probably due to the fact that I watched oral sex porn for so many years.
I find it depends how much I’ve been in my head previously I do realise I was with a partner I wasn’t very attracted to but in general for me my anxiety starts when penetration occurs once I’m in I begin to think right am I going soft etc when it’s really bad I get anxious before any sex
Pre sex nerves
Condoms
Sort of she being excited or expectant
Just before I’m about to penetrate my partner.
Definitely putting a condom on and the first night of sex when meeting a new partner
Condoms because of knowing sex won’t feel as good, which in turn i know makes me soft and then moving from foreplay to sex, wondering if it will work.
Shower sex, anything standing or feeling like I’m physically struggling to maintain tempo and stamina. Any talk or changing positions will also trigger panic.
When I do have an erection, such as foreplay… I get worried that I’m going to lose it and then that’s when the inner thoughts take over and then it’s a flip of the coin on whether it’s going to stay or go.
Situations I’ve had trouble in the past
And transition periods a spiral into my inner critic
Being expected to top.
During a massage. Although it sexy to give a massage. I focus too much on keeping my erection. Sometimes when we are about to have sex abd it feels like it’s taking too long to actually get to penetration, I sometimes lose my erection.
The moment of putting the condom on, the foreplay - especially when a woman goes down on me and the feeling of wanting to be fully erect and then the guilt of it when I’m not… Basically anything that I feel might feel different to what I’m used to and masturbation makes me focus on potential to disappoint. Because I feel as though they’re making the effort and I’m not showing reciprocation through a lack of erection
condoms can be a big one, especially moving from foreplay to penetrative sex is the big one for me. It’s when it feels “real” and that transition can be scary or deflating. missionary vs other positions as well
All of the ones previously mentioned. Losing an erection is also a problem when changing positions or changing rooms
I try and spend as much time on foreplay as possible to avoid penetration as I know I won’t be hard enough
im usually hard during foreplay and then when my gf takes her clothes off indicating that she wants things to progress and then i go to take my clothes off, i lose my erection. so i was hard before but now im there naked ready to do the thing and its gone.