Had another setback tonight and I’m trying my best not to spiral out of control. I finished very quickly tonight with my wife, and she got angry and frustrated. I thought I had been doing better lately, but apparently not as she’s “sick of not being able to have sex for more than a few minutes for the last couple years.” I offer and do other things for her, but she says it’s not the same and is really only interested in penetrative sex.
I’m trying my best to stay out of my head and move on, but it’s going to be an uphill battle. Any tips or suggestions for moving past this without spiraling? Thanks!
Do you climax just as quick if you take it slow? Slow down the motion and focus on your wife and what happens her feel good.
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Yeah, it’s about the same. I know it’s mental, once fight or flight kicks in it’s all over for me. Thanks!
How is your oral game? I know my wasn’t keen until I got it right, now she loves it, more than penetration sometimes. Have you got to the bottom of why she’s not interested?
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I assume it must not be great if she’s not really interested in it… It seems to go ok when I do it and she’s interested, but it’s a stop on the road to penetration. I’ve been doing well with my fingers lately as well, but again not what she’s after. Thanks for the support!
Sorry to ask you tons of questions. Do you have psych ED problems? Worried about losing your erection? I only ask cause I didn’t have quickness issues until I got ED problems than I was so hyper focused on keeping an erection in staying in the hard zone I would pop off pretty quickly. For me once I got the ED worries mostly under control I was able to get the PE issue under control. Have you tried the squeeze technique module. That has worked pretty well for me. I also will pinch my inner thigh where it hurts like a bastard. Doesn’t always give you a ton of time but will at least give you more time. Also can try condoms and desensitize gels. All just thoughts and things that have worked for me. Good luck man and we all are here for you!
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Not a problem, no it’s happened once or twice when I was super stressed, but ED typically isn’t an issue for me. Thanks for the tips, I’ll give those a try. Appreciate your support!
Do you use condoms? I ask because I have the opposite issue (lack of sensitivity). Can you find maybe the thickest and least sensitive condom out there, would that help?
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Sorry to hear that mate. Not here with tips but just to say keep at it. I’ve seen improvement from working on it, but it takes time and commitment. Always going to be set backs and hard times like these, truly believe you can do it though mate.
All the best mate.
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Not really since my vasectomy last year, that’s a good idea and may help take some of the edge off. I discovered a while ago if I go too thick, I can’t feel anything and loose my erection.
Hey man it sounds like she isnt supportive, the basics in her said if you are stressed or not confident it can cause problems with premature ejaculation, sure its probably hard and sometimes bothers her to but you should try talking to her about how if she told you what was good about it and not talking about what was negative it can help you have more confidence in bed, its just a thought i dont know if this would work or not but no one wants to be beat down after having sex. Also if she isnt getting off have you tried bringing toys into the mix, maybe she uses a vibrator while you have sex and buildup as well, you give her oral before etc before the actual penetration itself, let the small things and buildup get her off first so when you do penetrate she is already on the verge or already did climax and you can do your thing
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You talked to your doctor? You can get meds for premature ejaculation.
Probably not a good answer, but it used to work for me to masturbate a few hours before. Something to be weary also is to avoid starting to look at sex as a chore. Good luck
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