After about two months of feeling present and confident and having no erection issues, I lost my erection this morning with my GF while on vacation.
I’m feeling so low and so embarrassed. I wish I could just fucking hide and disappear. She’s very loving and understanding, but I feel so worthless and defeated right now.
Could use any advice or encouragement.
I guess that you are feeling that your setback has destroyed your progress and that all your efforts have been pointless. I totally understand this.
But progress is not strictly increasing. You have to anticipate that you will fail at some point. If you are working on yourself, you will make long term progress on average.
It is very important that you love your GF and she is supporting you. You have been able to make it work before, so you are on the right path. Remember the progress you have made so far. Keep calm and carry on.
I know it’s hard not to spiral and loose confidence after a setback, I struggle with that too. Try acknowledging it happened and that it was a one time thing, and tell yourself that it’s ok and you’ll be able to keep it again in the future.
I’m sure you’re having an amazing time on vacation with your gf, relax and don’t stress, there will be other opportunities! You’ve got this man!
I real feel for you. I look on mojo and other techniques as ongoing aids and not as cures. The mindfulness side is as much to help me relax with my ED as to improve it.
We recently played out a role play for real, which kick started our libidos. But again, not a cure