I’m married, and when I started to ask my wife about doing the sensate focus exercise together I think I must have blown the approach. She seems put off by it, and I’m wondering if anyone else has had a similar rejection experience who was able to overcome it with more conversation?
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Pretty similar here I’ve only mentioned it once and seemed like he was a little weirded out by it.
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Supposed to say she my wife
I tried asking her about it again when we were in a better mood. I started by saying “hey, there’s something that I want to do, but I’m afraid to talk to you about it.” She responded by saying that she’s open to hearing about it and that I should tell her what’s on my mind. I told her about how I’d become anxious about asking her to try sensate focus with me because it was shut down the last few times. I told her how that made me feel like I was dealing with my delayed ejaculation issues on my own and struggling to gain ground, which made the whole thing that much more troubling to me. She said she wanted to be on my team and that we should try the exercise. We both ended up having a really nice time with level 1, and even had some sex the next morning. I still struggled with my delayed orgasm and overthinking, but I guess this is a marathon, not a sprint.
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