Does anyone else get in their head overthinking about if they are fully satisfying their partner? I struggle with PE and occasional loss of erection but my bigger problem is constantly being in my head during sex worrying how I compare to my gf’s previous partners. We’ve had technically successful sex a handful of times but staying in my head limits the connection that I feel during sex. My main question is how to I bring this up with my partner without it seeming like I’m judging her past?
Comparing yourself to others in any aspect of life is difficult because we typically focus on the negative or what we don’t have.
I would take a slightly different angle and avoid asking about the past, and focus on the present, asking her if her physical and sexual needs are currently being met.
What does she like in the bedroom, what doesn’t she like. A great way to do this can be with a Yes, No, Maybe list (a quick google should give you plenty of results).
Essentially be curious and playful about your partners wants and needs along with your own.