Anyone else have performance issues related around internal comparisons to your partners previous sexual relationships?
Have you found a way to stop the toxic thoughts?
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Yes. I have had that. However, I have come to realize that comparison does not help. You are not them, and they are not you. Our goal therefore should be the best version of ourselves - not to impress others but for ourselves.
Comparison is counterproductive. This app has exercises to help with getting out of our head and silencing the critic. I find them helpful, and perhaps you will also
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Fuck yeah I feel like my cock ain’t enough of I’m not good enough it a real head fuck
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Yep I’m now in my 50’s s but going way back my GF in my teens cheated on me with her ex who had a big penis, which gave me a complex for years about my size. After years I found out my endowment is actually pretty good and learned that it’s more about your woman being happy than number of inches. So things can get better but thinking back to that time that set me on the path of suffering performance anxiety in the bedroom later in life
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I know I’m the smallest she’s had….
Her body count is like 8…
She’s 53. I’m 54. She’s had a few long term guys, but never married & her relationships have all been under 4 years…
BUT- she’s never had a guy focus on her pleasure as much as I do. I absolutely love foreplay. Eating her is my favorite thing to do. Since I started getting PED, I got pretty good at oral and my finger game. Kinda like when a blind guy’s other senses get better.
There’s way more to sex and pleasure than fucking… (tho fucking is pretty great…..when your body will cooperate…
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