I recently hit 6 months with my girlfriend and also recently fell back into porn. I watched it a lot the past week and it definitely affected my performance in bed. I felt so guilty and ashamed of myself and was scared to tell her about it. I previously promised i wasn’t gonna watch it again, and having to explain to her why i was in my head and that i broke the promise I said I wasn’t going to… broke my heart and hers too. I never want to be put in that situation again. She told me I should go see a therapist, but I cant even afford one. Ive been so depressed about it and am just looking for the light at the end of the tunnel. I have to start over again and I am currently 2 days free of porn. If anyone else struggles here lets get through it together
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Lookup the Easy Peasy method. Some guys swear by it. It’s a short book that has helped a lot of guys here quit.
I bet it’s the combo of porn and solo play that messes you up too…
It’s a 1-2punch.
Some times just gotta ask yourself why you watch it what makes you want to watch it also talking to your girlfriend about each of your sexual needs might help
I struggle with it too. Developed my porn habit more than 25 years ago. It overloads our circuits with a rush of dopamine that is hard to mimic in real life. I told myself I would quit but occasionally slip and beat myself up about it.
Try the porn reboot. Celebrate progress instead of striving for perfection. Mistakes are opportunities to learn and grow.. identify your triggers and find ways to eliminate them
Hang in there, man! There are so many of us that struggle with this as well. The fact you’re here means you’re ready to make those paradigm changes. It’s so much more than just continuing the cycle of stopping, slipping up, guilt and shame, bad impacts in your head, etc. You’re changing your life. There will be setbacks so be good to yourself and extend yourself grace because none of us are perfect. You’re not alone! If another can do it, so can you. You’ve already started your journey!
I downloaded this app again JUST to let you all know that these practices DO work. It does get much better :). I grew up watching porn from 11-20 years old and didn’t have my first sexual encounter until 20, and I was petrified, scared, embarrassed etc. I thought I was permanently brain dead from porn use and that’s the only thing my brain would ever respond to. But that same girl that I had the encounter with was super understanding when I told her about my struggle, and I got this app, and another app called Brain Buddy, and boys, I was reborn a new man and re-wired my brain within a year. You guys need to stay consistent and disciplined with these apps. From one man to another, it will SAVE YOUR LIFE. That might sound dramatic but I have been to the other side and I cannot imagine being where you young men are again. YOU NEED TO FIGHT FOR YOUR FUTURE SELF. I am so proud of you ALL for taking these first steps. Never skip a day, journal, workout, meditate, kegels, thought exercises, EVERYTHING. DO IT ALL AND IT WILL SAVE YOU THERE IS HOPE! It took me 90-120 days to start feeling the effects of the practices. But brothers trust me when I say this, YOU WILL BE BORN ANEW. You will meet the man you were meant to be. You will be SO PROUD of yourself. Stay strong brothers please there is hope please fight for your future self
Honestly I felt a lot of shame too cuz when i would get disconnected with my ex I would go jerk off to girls that I knew and she knew and I felt so guilty after a while cuz I didn’t want that to be the case. In my case I realized I was emotionally disconnected and probably should’ve talked more about that. But definitely felt that guilt and shame so I downloaded this app to rewire my brain so i dont have to feel guilty for how or what i masturbate to
Youre not alone. That shameful feeling after you masturbated to porn just hits like a truck. Been on this app for probably 6 months and things have gotten better between me and my girl. Have fallen back into porn in stints here and there but right now im about a month free. Deleting twitter was a big help for me personally. Believe in you champ!