Hello all, bit weird sharing something so personal on here but here goes.. 39, straight male. Separated from wife for over a year (she became a lesbian!!). Sexless marriage for many years, young children etc make things complicated. I have male infertility. Children are all IVF. I can physically have sex, just no sperm in my ejaculate.
Been using a lot of porn to masturbate over the last few years, didn’t really think anything of it. When we separated I started a relationship with a woman a few months later. It lasted about 5 months. Guess I was attracted to her but I had lots of issues with ED and was never able to cum with her. Lots of anxiety and stuff that eventually improved through face to face psychological therapy (I HIGHLY RECOMMEND THIS FOR EVERYONE!!)
Anyway basically I noticed I was only able to get hard and to ejaculate when watching porn on my phone.
After having a snog with a woman at a works do I have lots of exciting things to think about now.. I decided to go cold turkey on the porn completely and just use the erotic audio on this app.
I can tell you that it’s getting a lot easier to get hard just listening to the erotic stuff and having fantasies, and it’s been really easy to cum as well which has left me surprised.
I know the stuff on the app says porn addiction isn’t really a thing.. but my experience has shown me that I’m better off without porn altogether in my opinion .
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I’m having the same issue. I got way addicted to porn over the years. I’d like to know more about the psychological therapy. How did it help you?
Hi there, I just mean what people call “Therapy”. I.e chatting to a professional who is there to help you. For me there were a lot of other issues related to my own identity, sense of self, anxiety and negative thoughts about self. This was the reason I started therapy, I’ve never spoken about any of the sex issues apart from the lack of intimacy during my marriage.
How did it help me? I’m much happier in myself, I realised online dating just isn’t for me (it’s just not how I’d like to meet new people). It’s helped me with some underlying psychological issues, I no longer have a desperate need to be in a relationship and I have more of my own hobbies and interests.
I would still love to meet someone and have good sex with them, but I don’t have that desperate need anymore, which I think porn really wasn’t helping with. I have fewer urges to masturbate without porn. But I’m cool with that .
I suspect my x is lesbian too. Sexless for last several years. She finally left. I’m in a new relationship and at first my PED was bad. Got dosing right for Cialis and it’s much better. Still have deathgrip pretty bad. I’m also below avg so that’s like strike 3…
I’m now able to have mutually satisfying sex and I’ve mastered oral so satisfying her with my dick is not really a necessity… She’s never (current or previously) cum from penetration alone- always needs clit stimulus- so I bought a lil vibe toy. She loves it during sex, oral and fingering. Anyway- as we get more familiar with each other I’m getting closer to finishing in her. Tho she loves to watch me finish myself. Which is cool because I LOVE watching her play with herself…