Hi there,
I’ve been struggling lately with something that’s been affecting my mental health, confidence, and overall well-being. Over the past while, I’ve developed what I believe is a pretty severe addiction to pornography. It’s something I’ve tried to ignore or downplay in the past, but now it’s starting to affect me in more visible and frustrating ways.
One of the biggest issues I’ve noticed is that I’ve become increasingly desensitized, and it’s having a major impact on my sexual function and performance. I’ve started leaking precum very quickly — sometimes almost immediately upon arousal — and I ejaculate after just a couple of minutes. This wasn’t always the case, but over time it’s gotten worse, and I’m beginning to worry about how this might affect my relationships in the future.
I know these symptoms are likely connected to the constant overstimulation from frequent porn use, and I’m aware that there could also be underlying anxiety or psychological factors at play. But I’m not entirely sure where to start or how to address it in a sustainable, healthy way.
I’d really appreciate some advice or direction on how I can begin to reverse this pattern. How can I work toward overcoming porn addiction and regaining better control over my sexual responses? Are there specific habits, therapies, or exercises (like pelvic floor training or mindfulness) that could help? I’m open to putting in the work — I just want to feel like myself again.
Thanks for taking the time to read this. Any insight would mean a lot.
Google Physcosexual therapy in your area mate, the NHS offer the service and they can really help you! 
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Your description of your problem does not seem so bad to me. I am also leaking precum pretty much at the beginning, but I have problems with delayed ejaculation, so precum has nothing to do with PE or DE, I guess.
Also “a couple of minutes” is not necessarily too quick. If I remember correctly, average penetrative sex last between 5 to 10mins or something. I think most guys having serious problems with PE cum in a matter of seconds (correct me if I am wrong). If you can bang for like 3-4 minutes, that’s fine. Just take a small break when you are about to nut, play with her pussy or something and then go again after that.
As long as you can stay hard and don’t have extreme PE you are fine and I wouldn’t worry too much about porn otherwise. In my opinion, porn is only a problem if it is used either used very often and compulsively, so that it interferes with your personal life OR if it becomes your main way to seek sexual pleasure, leading you to not enjoy or want to pursue sex in real life.
Check out Easy Peasy. It’s excellent and totally stopped my onmbsession with porn.
I have had a pretty bad porn addiction in the past & I think it is a pretty common thing these days so your not alone.
For me, I had to start with looking at why I was using it (stress, boredom, loneliness). It was only once I identified these that I could start to do other things to deal with them & then the need for porn started to drop away.
I have cut out porn cold turkey. I was viewing it multiple times a week but not masturbating. I think I just needed that dopamine rush. I am trying to retire my brain and I know it takes time but I am trying to stay positive. Cutting out porn has been easy I just hope I see results
It’s an online programme / book designed to help you come off porn. After watching porn almost daily, I haven’t watched any for 5 months, nor do I want to.