Hey, new to the app,
I’ve had a crippling porn addiction for a while..and throughout the years..it got more and more intense..not just watching, but the categories as well..
Without some form of arousal like porn. I struggle to get hard at naturaly stimulating things..and I’m scared I’ve f-d something up in me.
Given me severe performance anxiety
Sorry bro, as someone whos been through it. I know how you feel. This app helps. Let your body take a break from that form of stiulus. In the meantime hammer out kegels on the daily i like the app “easy kegel” also, gives more variation you can set for longer sets and rep schemes. Switch over to the erotiv stories on here. Take a deep breath. Itll take probably 3 months to get to alright again, and probably around 12 months to get back to normal. In the meantime, keep diligant, exercise and work on yourself. You can come back from where youre at to the point that its better than it has ever been. As someone whos been there. I know.
I was also addicted to porn. There is nothing which is not reversible. Some people recommend going cold turkey to both porn and masturbation, but I think this is a bad idea. It is just unimaginably hard and it gives you no opportunity to reconnect to your own sexuality.
When I switched to mainly using fantasy for masturbation I was surprised how aroused I could get by just using my mind. Sometimes it is easy to just use fantasy, sometimes not so much. I would suggest a hierarchy: fantasy > erotica > erotic audio > porn. That is, for each time you fap, try fantasy first and if that doesn’t work go to erotica, and so on. And also, never fap to something that you find shameful and gives bad feelings afterwards.
I know your right, the last part has been a hard sticking point.
I’d watch something and feel like an absolute joke for hours after, your hierarchy is something I’ll definitely take a shot at though!
Appreciated, to the N’th degree, just broke things off with a woman I was in talking stages with and it’s hit me really hard. But it’s meant that I can look after me with only my opinion again, and even though I have no clue what kegals are XD, I’ll be sure it becomes something I make apart of my life
Sorry kegels. Pelvic floor exercises. They’re part of the app