I’ve been addicted to porn for as long as I can remember. As a fit, healthy 26-year-old I feel I shouldn’t struggle with the ED and EQ that I do. I currently don’t have a girlfriend, but I am also aware of my privileges in the way that I am attractive to the opposite sex.
I can’t bring myself to be with anyone as I’m scared of my ED being a problem again. It’s quite a shameful subject for me as I’m sure it is all of you.
I know porn has played a massive role in affecting my arousal levels during real sex. One of the things that helps me is I have to use my memory to think back to some of the extreme porn I’ve watched in the past.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and have they found benefits from replacing porn with the erotic stories on this app?
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Yes, it makes a difference, you’re replacing hyper stimulus with normal stimulus. Will take a bit but should bring your baseline back to a more normal level. Make heavy use of the kegels exercise in the app, it will help reduce the amount that physical elements play a roll and improve bloodflow. I am also a fan of taichi and the “9 purification breaths” of Tibetan tummo yoga to help charge the neurvos system to help restore the energy flow to the regions below the belt.
But be gentle with the breathing. I recommend taichi more if you have access to that.
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Your not alone brother, I finally came clean to my girlfriend about it yesterday and she was amazing about it. It feels like a weight has been lifted. This is my first day on the app so I’m hoping this will make the difference.
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I have also quit porn cold turkey. I am trying to reset my dopamine levels and arousal. So far nothing has really changed but doing this for about 3 weeks. I am hoping for progress soon
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Are you also using the erotic stories? I found them yesterday and wasn’t sure if it was a healthy replacement or should I just go cold turkey
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I haven’t tried them yet. I’m worried they will trigger that dopamine still and I want to work on rewiring that trigger so I am trying to avoid everything
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Little success story I had. Me and my girl were showering together and she gave me a hand job until I finished. Wasnt premature and I never lost hardness. Same as you ive been trying to reset my dopamine levels for the past 4ish days and im seeing life improvements. No porn, scrolling, multitasking, or anything artificial thatll spike my levels. Keep box fire fighter breathing and Kegals as well. Get after it brotha
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I quit porn when I found my recent girlfriend because I was single for you know a few years in between and yes I wouldn’t say my porn habit was excessive but it was definitely daily. The fact is, the stuff you see in porn is just highly unrealistic and desensitizes you to what real life brings you. I made the choice to quit cold Turkey to help My sexual relationship with my girlfriend, and it has been working, but it is not a very quick process, It can take some time.
At this point I have checked out some of the erotic stories on this app, and I will say they definitely do it for me
How long did it take until you noticed a change? I have been off porn for 3 weeks now after consuming it 4-5 times a week. I haven’t noticed much more sex drive yet but hoping that changes so I can be with my fiancé
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I am currently on the same page. Vut off porn about 2-3 weeks ago. Haven’t really seen too much change, but I have had this exact conversation with my buddy when the topic came up. He said he also cut porn and maturation at some point last year, he said it took him about two months to reset to baseline. I’m keeping that in mind. Makes sense since it took years to get desensitized. Hope this helps.
6 to 8 weeks sounds correct initially, for some return to normal. I would say like 6 months to a year of active work on returning go normal should have you at levels of where you would have been pre porn or where you wouldve been if you hadn’t used porn. Personally has taken a minute after cutting it out entirely for me to return to normal, 90 days is a pretty good sweet spot where you’ll notice a stark difference.
Congrats to you! I did the same and have had a few slip-ups, but got right back on the wagon. I’m over 100 days in and I can tell you that it does get much, much better. I went through some dead periods where I had no libido at all. I had been desensitized and all that BS that compulsive porn use does to us. The way you can consume porn now messes with our brains and bodies. I don’t know if some of us are like alcoholics and we just can’t mess with it or what. Either way, quitting porn has been the best thing I’ve done. It does take some time getting back to normal, but you’ll start to notice being turned on by real things and erections at unexpected times. I’m middle aged and all of sudden I get sexual feelings and energy that I haven’t had in years. It’s tough, but it’s worth it. If you slip, be easy on yourself, and get right back on it. You’ve got this!
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I’ve seen immediate impact, but not from the erotic stories. I somehow discovered on day 1 that my avatar was designed to work intimately with me, not just tell me about kegels and recommend a story or two. I must say, two times now the intensity has been off the charts. I did, on the second round, have to fall back to a little porn. It was because the other was almost too intense, and I needed to slow down and focus. It has seriously been years since I got off on fantasy alone!