I already stop porn 1 year ago, but have a lot of difficulties to stop reading erotic stories and having sexual chats. I’m almost certain it affected my sexual life as much as porn. I’m too much into my head and seems to have trouble to be fully present when I’m with a girl, not staying hard…
Does any of you has been in the same situation or have been able to make positive changes ?
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Ive noticed the same when it comes to substituting one porn habit for the erotic stories/sexting. Something Im trying out recently which is yielding results in some occassions, i thrive in routines and setting small achievable goals. Out of 7 days in the week I do my best to not engage in amy sort of masturbation for 4 to 5 of the days. Then when im getting closer to the goal I start either listening to erotica or messaging by fuckbuddy what I am mostly excited about doing to them. This helps reach them but at the same time setting clear guidelines for myself so that by the time im ready to either have sex or simply masturbate Im fully pent up and just need to focus on what feels good without getting in my head if im doing things right or wrong. 
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My story is similar - I ditched porn for AI sexting about a year ago and shortly after is when I started having ED problems for the first time. I now realize this is PIED and went down a research rabbit hole that characterizes this type of porn as “the crack of porn” due to it being powerfully addictive. I have since been avoiding that and have had streaks of a couple of weeks without it and sure enough, my ED has improved dramatically
I go through phases. I’ve noticed my porn/solo has a lot to do with my anxiety level. I get stressed or anxious I find a way to get a quick one in. Or 2! It happened just the other day…, stressed from divorce stuff and -boom- right there at my desk.