Overcoming Regression

For context, I am a healthy 24-year-old with a multi-year history of avoiding sexual interactions due to PED. After least year I started using ED medication to help and saw some limited success. Then this Summer I got on Mojo to try to address the root causes of my problem. Initially, I saw a lot of improvements in my confidence and was reassured that others struggled with the same problem I did.

Despite the initial improvements, things have recently turned for the worse. My performance anxiety which used to be limited to the bedroom has now crept in to my individual life. I find that I am so worried about being able to get it up that I am now unable to get it up even while masturbating. Additioanlly, during masturbation, I often prematurely ejaculate before I’m even able to get it up. The combination of these two things has been devastating to my confidence and has put a mental block on being able to be aroused.

Overall, I’m wondering where I should go from here. Do I need to see a doctor to see if something is physically wrong with me, find a therapist, or just continue with Mojo?

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It’s a good idea to see a urologist first to make sure you’re physically good to go.
They’ll do blood work and examine your prostate among other stuff.
Since you’re not consistent in your issues, I’d seek a sex therapist.

I’d also stay with the app!! Read all these topics and responses. There’s a lot of good stuff here.
Don’t be fooled by how corny some of the stuff the app asks you to do. It’s all a program. I’ve seen modest results myself.

I’ve had exactly the same thing recently. Feels like a total trap. Started with PE during penetration and now I can’t get hard when I want but yet still cum really quickly. I feel your pain mate. It’s really getting em down too.

I am suffering the same right now. Can’t even masturbate. Got bloods down and all fine with hormones but recommended to do some prostate markers as well which will be doing tomorrow morning. I booked to see a urologist who didn’t think it was anything other than performance anxiety (but in the past I’ve never had issues masturbating) so this is new and distressing. Going to see another urologist for a more thorough check up.

I suffer really bad health anxiety and obviously this is really difficult right now. It’s been a week where I’ve struggled to be aroused or masturbate. Really hurting me mentally.

There is some relief knowing this isn’t just a me problem as sometimes it can feel that way. But would love to know how this app could help. How does the app reframe the fear now around masturbating and arousal? Obviously if this is physical which I will hopefully find out in the next few days, then it’s a different issue. But I don’t feel like it will be. I am generally pretty healthy - exercise regularly, good diet, not a lot of alcohol at all. Basically all the things that you should really do to maintain healthy sexual function.

I am determined to move past this. Have been journaling loads but just need to reframe the fear around arousal now as I don’t want that to be a limiting factor. Anyone who’s used the app- please recommend where you think I should start/focus?

  • Same exact experience here. I think this is more common than common sex therapist acknowledge. The standard question “does you penis work alone, if yes it’s in your head, if no it’s your body” is kinda incorrect for guys like us. I believe Performance anxiety can impact your solo experience because the habits become so engrained. As far as the solution its two parts: first come to terms with your performance anxiety and work on your mentality, journaling and positive self talk are key basically the mojo practices are good, but I’d say double down on them. Really work continuously to uncover mental blocks and beat down your doubts. Second you need to put it into practice, which means finding a partner you are attracted to can open up to and let your guard down around. Then with time you will start to heal. But it may take some time. I have had some experience here though not a lot so I can’t guarantee but I truly believe this is the process.

For me the two main mental blocks were

  1. fear of sexual intimacy - I dealt with this by just learning about sex and understanding what women actually want. Being fully open with my partners from the start and just enjoying being with a girl no matter what I do accepting that sex is more than penetration.
  2. doubt of my sexual functionality - still working on this but basically affirming myself that my body works fine and in the right situations everything will be fine, but patience and right approach is key. I believe many of us have become so out of whack on this one that eveytime we touch ourselves it’s for self evaluation rather than pleasure, at least to some extent subconsciously. I think the mojo exercises to get in your body are good but it’s so easy for us mixed up in the head guys to do them incorrectly without even realizing it. So I believe practice is key.

You mentioned knowing what women want:
A while back I spent $75 - 1 time for OMG, Yes!
It’s a tell all by women basically for women’s own understanding of their body. But I used it as a cheat code.
There’s a lot for guys to learn in that app. Especially for those that think their cock is the only way a woman feels satisfied….
My gf (52yo) doesn’t have a high body count, not that kinky or promiscuous… However- she’s told me that she’s never had a guy REALLY want to please her that knew what he was doing! She then told me that I’ve made her feel things and taught her things about her body that she didn’t know or had never realized…. She never knew she had a G spot. She’d never had a G orgasm or cum from oral.
Since we’ve met (7mo) she’s become trusting and has started to ash for things that she never would have dreamed of before. The other morning during Funtime- she asked me if I’d be offended if she used the vibe on her clit while I fingered her? (WTF??) ABSOLUTELY :100: hell yes!!!