I am 36 and I have had a very few sexual partners throughout my life of which I regret about all the time. I lack the sex drive or libido to look for sexual partners. At the same time I want to have more sexual partners but this has always been challenge for me to find people around with similar interests. I lack the self esteem, confidence, interest, libido, and drive. I also look down on myself, which plays a huge role in my life and also in the bedroom. If I am with someone, I get my self criticism kicks in. Thoughts like I am going cum too soon, I am not going to get hard, I am going to lose the hardness, she is gonna be pissed, she is gonna feel hopeless about me, I gotta keep it hard no matter what, oh shit its going soft, fuck what do I do, ughhh its happening again, ……
I also don’t meet new sexual partners because to avoid any sort of embarrassment, stress, and anxiety.
I am just tired of living this way.
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You’re not alone, my friend. I experience all of this as well.
I think if you feel like you want to meet more sexual partners, starting with whatever resources that are easiest, like dating apps is good. I feel like relate to all these feelings of looking down on myself and always thinking girls will prefer and choose other men over me due to my size and inability to approach women with confidence, that i just didn’t even try. Dating apps persistently was how I managed to find someone, and I know you can too.
Even going online and talking in virtual spaces like live cams could be a way to start to engage with women with little pressure and get used to it.
I’m 30 and have had few sexual experiences, and am with a partner now that I am currently struggling with due to my jealousy of her rich sexual history. I feel like my size isn’t big enough or satisfying to her or any woman compared to other men, and it kills my self confidence. The fact is there are plenty of women that would still go for you anyways, and there isn’t as much pressure or high stakes with sex or satisfying women as we think. I think we can tend to really feel out a lot of weight on how we perform but it’s really not as serious as we think it is. Sure, we want to be a good sexual partner, but I think just finding ways to look at it from a playful perspective and just for the sake of enjoying yourself and having an experience is importsnt. If you can get someone’s attention and can be genuine I think it will naturally lead you to having let success with sex
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