Hey guys, I’m a bit scared of whats goin on, last saturday I had an ED episode with a girl a have a crush on for very long time I spoke about it here already. But what’s getting me scared is that today I tried to masturbate for the 1st time since and couldn’t get hard. I was doing it with no porn and trying to connect to the sensations I didn’t get full erection just got close to it and lost it after a few seconds. Does anyone had that same experience? I thought my ED was only psychological but now I’m not sure if I might have some other issue.
My first episode of ED was very traumatic, and I tried using masturbation to prove to myself that I was not a failure or broken. However, my psychological state was so disrupted that I failed even while masturbating because I wasn’t truly enjoying it; I was trying to prove something to myself. Consider whether during masturbation you were really focused on what you were doing, or if it was triggering thoughts of the last episode. Just go easy on yourself.
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Thanks man. I was very relaxed and on a non judgemental headspace, which is good but i did have the intention of proving to myself I could get hard.
I haven’t had a full erection in many years and am hoping this app can help
I agree, if you’re masturbating after that traumatic experience just to prove you can still get hard, it makes sense that you wouldn’t. There’s nothing wrong with you.
Also, if you usually use porn and you were trying without, and trying to focus on sensation, that’s adding something different to your routine. It may take time for you to get used to.
Been similar for me, your trying to retap into your sensations, if your masturbating out of frustration to prove you can get an erection it’s no going to help. My thing is that I can get an erection with porn, means I can get it without one. It’s going to take time to re connect with yourself so don’t be so hard on yourself. Take time and really try to sensate with other parts and slowly it builds back. All going through the journey together 
Thanks guys. First day on here and this is summing me up to a tee. Married for many years and absolutely obsessed with my wife. We’ve had years of average sex, but the past few years has been consistently awesome, until late last week. I’d had a few drinks and couldn’t stay hard. She had finished so we tried to finish me off manually to no avail. Thinking it was the drink, we tried a couple of nights later stone cold sober and it happened again. I was ashamed. She was thinking it was her (definitely not, I worship this woman). The next night we were in a great spot and spontaneously got it on. I finished first and she was okay with that but I wasn’t fully hard. That was Sunday. I have been doing pelvic floor exercises and told her we would wait at least a week before trying again but I find myself trying to prove to myself that I can still get hard and I really don’t think it is helping.