Cannot get hard when masturbating. 33yrs old

🍆 Erection issues
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As title.

Last time I went on a date (around 4months ago) i had a semi for the whole date, as soon as I met her & we hugged I became aroused, so I know it worked then. Not sure if it still works now though.

I don’t remember when I last had a morning wood, but I would wake up sometimes in the middle of the night and have semi’s / weak erections. It’s annoying because i used to wake up and have rock hard erections and sometimes (like once in a blue moon) I’d be so hard it would almost hurt, not uncomfortbale or anything, it was just ridiculously solid (which to be totally honest felt f*cking amazing being that hard)

Nowadays I struggle to get hard. Even if I am watching porn. I try to relax and think sexual thoughts and play and I still can’t get hard. It could be because I am worrying about cumming early/getting caught? (I mean at 33 I shouldn’t but still embarrassing to get caught) I still live at home and am hoping moving out will help that (which I am desperate to do within the next several months - houses are expensive and don’t want to rent, but anyway that’s besides the point)
I have even came multiple occasions when soft. It seems to be the only way recently, either soft most of the time or weak other times. Recently I would try and play and nothing would happen so I’d just try and relieve myself anyway, as I’m sticky from pre-cum and I have felt it coming so have stopped myself to make myself last longer and I just want a release. I’d start to make myself climax and I can feel myself about to cum and then randomly I’d get a quarter-erection (hope that makes sense) as I’m climaxing, so I’m left with a quarter/very weak erection after being soft for the good part of 20-30mins.

I’m really scared if I am totally honest. I haven’t had full on sex for years, the last 2 times I have either cum again when I’m like a quarter hard, or I’ve cum soft.

I’m 99% Sure it’s pyschological, what do you think, as I do tend to worry a lot. I have tried what I believe are pelvic floor/kegel exercises, where it feels like your asshole is closing up/tense the muscle between your balls and your asshole and gradually I have been able to hold it for longer than I did when I started. It just doesn’t seem to be doing anything.

I haven’t been with a woman since i last had that date and even then when we were fooling around she’d put her hand on my bulge and I can feel myself immediately about to cum so I took her hand away. I can’t be dealing with a situation where the person I’m getting intimate with cannot even touch me otherwise I’d cum.

It has got gradually worse over the years to the point where I would only now and then cum while soft to now where I can’t even get it hard. I used lube for the first time 3 years ago when playing and I had the hardest erection I have had for a long time AND I was able to prevent myself from cumming for so long, it was the best play I had ever had. But now, I can’t even get it up with Lube. What on earth is happening?

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Im no expert, but if I was in your boat I feel like I would let myself cum, no matter the situation. This could lead to getting used to and comfortable being soft, like the soft penis play exercise in phase 1. This is because even after someone comes, they can pleasure their partner in many ways

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ive been cumming while soft too! freaked me out! i think i was jacking off too frequently, doing it out of boredom and not because i was feeling it. just going with my body is the way forward, i feel. i agree with other response, let yourself cum and take the pressure down.

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I have got the trial so will give it a go and see how I get on.

But it just feels a lil hopeless at the moment that I’m masturbating and feeling horny and I want to feel good & I can’t get it up as hard as I used to, if at all!

Then of course the anxiety sets in that I’m not getting it up which makes it worse and I end up just climaxing soft.

Have any of you managed to resolve/make it get better since starting Mojo?

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Welkom haven’t had a seksual encounter since I started Mojo (which I started cause I didn’t get hard enough during s seksual encounter), so I can’t say in practice it’s working.

But I am possitive about the mojo methods! I really believe they can work, especially if you say it’s a mental thing.

But I would say just go for a subscription for a couple months and (like me) totally submit to the lessons, follow them religiously and have faith that what say will work!

But really do everything even though it seems weird or uncomfortable.

You got this man :muscle:

I can say I do feel more confident after doing the lessons and feel more sure that I will do fine next time. And even if it stays soft nex time, that’s oke! I can still have fun and I sure as hell can still pleasure a woman without a hard on!

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