Iām a 39 year old male who eats well and exercises regularly.
Iāve been suffering from ED for years, mostly hiding it from partners using viagra.
However Iām trying to stop this habit and Iām wondering if my ED is physical or psychological.
My penis works fine on viagra and Iām very comfortable in sexual situations. I rarely almost ever have morning wood or night time erections. However Iāve been to the doctors and all my blood tests came back normal. Also when I masterbate my erection is very weak at best.
Do you believe my problems are physical or psychological? Iām really struggling as the doctors do not want to know as my bloods are normal. Also all the advice about eat well, exercise etc I do anyway. Is it possible that stress and anxiety can prevent night time and morning wood? As I thought that was a physical problem. Any response would be really helpful. Thanks.
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You say āmy penis works fine on Viagraā. If the the apparatus is working in that situation then I would think that the problems you are having in other circumstances are purely psychological. If you were physically broken you wouldnāt be able to get it up under ANY circumstances. Stay hopeful!
Thank you for your reply. With it working with viagra I thought maybe that pointed more towards physiological, especially with me not getting morning erections. I suspected potentially narrowing of the blood vessels in the penis. But my bloods came back fine and what with all the demands on the NHS with covid, the doctors donāt seem to want to look into it further.
Your situation is very similar to mine, in almost every detail. I ruled out every other possible cause and realised it must be psychological, and now Iām trying to deal with that by seeing a sex therapist. Are you taking any steps to deal with your issue?
Mine was caused by my (ex)wife cheating on me many years ago, which utterly broke me, and although Iām heading in the right direction Iāve been a bit lost ever since. Iām hoping I can get my shit together in my life, find some calm, and as a result my ED and lack of libido will both disappear.
Both your situations sound similar to mine, although Iād say that Viagra/Cialis donāt necessarily make that much of a difference to me. All my blood tests were fine so my doctor has referred me to a urologist to see if the issue is physical. Iām surprised your doctor didnāt do the same, but perhaps this is because you can actually achieve decent erections in some circumstances, albeit limited ones(?).
Fwiw, my current approach is that working on my psychology canāt harm either way. I definitely have the loud āinner criticā, with all that entails, whether or not my problem is ultimately physical. Iād like to get rid of that unhelpful voice inside me regardless.
I guess itās good for all of us to know there are men in very similar situations! I donāt discuss these things with men in my personal life, so I feel a bit alone and unusual quite oftenā¦
Where you mention your inner critic - I definitely have that, and heās a bit too loud. But that was always the case, including when I could have sex a few times a night without too much trouble! (This is when I was youngā¦those days are long gone!)
If I canāt make something work with working on my psychology, I donāt know where I can go next. Iāll have covered everything off, and Iāll be out of ideas. And I can have sex with the aid of Viagra, etc, but I really miss feeling proper lust. Thatās becoming a distant memory.