My long term partner passed away a little over three years ago after a two and a half year battle with cancer, leaving me and our twin boys (5 at the time). I was her carer for almost a year, and due to her illness, and the kids coming along, I’ve had barely any intimacy for almost 10 years.
Last year I ran into someone I knew before I met my partner, and we started hanging out as friends for a few months before becoming intimate a couple of months ago.
It’s going pretty well, the only problem is that I rarely get an erection, and when I do, it doesn’t last long. She’s been a good sport about it, but I can tell it’s really bothering her, as it is me.
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Be kind to yourself, you’ve had a lot to cope with and it may take more time. If you don’t mind me asking, do you get any time to yourself, doing something for just you?
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I get time to unwind and watch TV in an evening, once the kids are in bed, and before this new relationship, socialise a couple of times a month, but there’s not a great deal of spare time, between work and the children
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My household is similarly busy. Do you work out? I found having a few kettlebells and a mat around allows me to make use of the 10 min here, 30 mins there and get and stay fit - just a thought