I’m almost 22 now and have never been able to get hard with a woman but I have no problem when it comes to masturbation. This has really been affecting my desire for sex making me not even bother trying anymore. I’ve recently started seeing an amazing girl but after staying over at hers and the same issue happened again I’m really not sure what to do. All help/advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Hey man, that’s a tough one. I really feel for you. I’ve had the same issue with every partner in my past at one point or another and it can make you feel very small.
So first and foremost don’t get in the negative loop of letting yourself believe that this problem is going to stay forever. Because I’ll tell you right now it’s not. I have found the therapy on this app to be quite tremendous actually. Although there were definitely points where I was still struggling (even to this day). I went and talked to my doctor about this issue, and I know it’s 100% a mental block because I can get it up for porn as well. It’s a bit of a last resort, but I got prescribed Viagra to work in conjunction with therapy. I wasn’t so sure about taking it but I tried it out and it really helped me get a bit of my confidence back. I would not recommend it for everybody, especially if you feel like your mental block can be tackled through other means. But maybe it’s worth a try just to get a bit of confidence back. I used it a few times and I had gained enough confidence that during a spontaneous session I was able to get it up without Viagra.
Try not to start solely relying on it and make sure you keep up with your therapy, because the Viagra alone can be a slippery slope and lead you to believe you don’t need the therapy. But it also allows you to practice what you learn here in a sexual scenario without the worry of maintaining an erection.
Just my two cents, I hope you find something that works for you man.
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hey, for me it was definitely the image and pressure i had surrounding sex. porn really doesnt help in that it spreads all those images of a man being a failure if he cant pop a boner to chop trees with at the mere thought of sex. also, i found that somewhere i’d been subconsciously comparing myself to my idea of what great sex everyone else probably has.
i’ve recently learned about the absurdity of it all and to take it all less seriously, which has definitely helped. maybe try to get into your mind and figure out what kind of worries or other emotions are causing that, and then work on that without pressuring yourself.
ED is really all pressure. get rid of that and suddenly your dick is solid steel, in my experience
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You might be stuck in your head and suffering from performance anxiety… Lots of great exercises to reframe your beliefs on here, speak to the AI coach to get some direction. I’ve decided to quit porn, and currently focusing on challenging my beliefs, self talk, reconnect to my body and penis without masturbation and ejaculation, i feel like im making progress