I think my gf is hot and sexy and I care for her so deeply as I still find myself getting jealous or wanting to be around her and loving on her etc but it feels like when it comes time to it i can never get excited enough. We discuss things but now she’s asking me why I can’t get it up the last 3 times and it’s making her feel like it’s her when I know it’s my overthinking. I’m using royal honey now to help stay to ease the nerves of losing the erection. I obviously don’t wanna rely on it.
I think it’s just a worry thing cause I get erections with porn no problem and I think it’s cause when I’m alone I don’t have ti worry about resentment from a partner. I wanna feel more confident and excited to fuck her. I wanna feel like she’s crazy for me but maybe that’s too much to ask? She says she is but maybe it’s just not the way I feel like it should be? She rarely initiates and when I do she’s often tired or not in the mood, so I find it hard to believe leading me to not be able to get excited or lose interest fast.
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First of all, cut out porn completely starting today. I would also suggest stoping masturbation. Then follow Mojo program and do it every day, if needed multiple times a day.
Porn can be very destructive to your brain, as you wire it to think the real life experience is the same, when in reality it is not. Porn is fake as it is acting. It will take a while, but doing Mojo for 6-9 months should help you.
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Total agreement on cutting out porn. Check out the sessions about porn in Resources on this app
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Ask her to initiate! That’s hard for some girls to do, but tell her honestly how you need to know she desires you
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No porn! It worked for me when i was in a similar situation
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Agee!!
You gotta tell her how you feel. Your feelings count just as much as hers! It’s easy to block yours to focus on her and her feelings but on the long run it’ll backfire on you.
Ya gotta be up front. On ED. On how you want her to treat you. On initiating sex. Everything. Don’t assume anything. Not that you have to be a dick or demanding… but you gotta communicate back and forth. Not 1 directionality.
She also needs to understand that your ED problem is yours. Not hers. It affects both, and she may be able to help…
I’ve been here 6? Weeks? Working hard on the app and doing other stuff to improve my PED. I was real honest with the new gf. Its my problem, but here are a few ways you may be able to help: tell me what you
Like so I can easily please you- be encouraging of me, be vocal in bed. If it feels good, tell me so. Or direct me how I can make it go from great to mind blowing.
I told her I like naughty talk. Not filthy, but explicit. She’s 
trying and it’s out of her comfort zone and I totally appreciate it and it’s hot AF!
Good luck man!!