Often I donāt get hard naturally from foreplay with my wife. After getting her off with my fingers or mouth, I stroke myself to get hard and then I am fine to penetrate her and cum inside her. Me having to get myself hard breaks up the flow of sex and doesnāt feel very natural.
Is anybody else like this? Why do think that is?
I can get hard with no issues when by myself. Up until recent years, I would get hard naturally on my own so my wife isnāt used to having to do any work to get me hard. She has tried to stroke me instead of me jerking myself but I am not used to how that feels and stay soft. When I stroke myself, I get hard with no problem.
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Thatās very much like me. I spent literally years in a sexless marriage, so perking off was my go-to. Iām now in a new relationship but canāt get hard through ānormalā foreplay. Iām wondering if itās masturbation thatās made me like this. Hope you find answers.
Consider leaning into senate focus to reactivate your awareness/sensation to touch around your body. Also congrats on getting off your parter and having sex! It does not sound unnatural to me to stroke yourself between pleasuring her and then entering her. Could be a case of your judging it more than it actually being unnatural.
Iām exactly the same way dude. I think it is because I am too used to using my right hand over so many years.I canāt even climax if Iām not sitting or lying on my back.