What should I do and does anyone else have this issue?
So I’ve been dating this girl for the past 7 months now and there has been absolutely no sex, head or HJ. Which I understand isn’t long but I’m personally a very horny guy and I’ve struggled a lot with porn. I’ve stopped watching for the past 2 years now but I’ve caught myself watching it again recently. I try to talk to her about being more intimate and even taking it in small steps but she hates the idea and honestly demonises it. This had lead me to start using my right hand to release, since I don’t want to cheat on her just to get it elsewhere. It’s gotten to the point where I feel like a homeless person begging for change…
Is she a virgin?
Was she abused?
Nervous or just prude?
Man. Tough spot….
She is a virgin
Never been abused
She’s not nervous (or claims not to be)
She just doesn’t want to do it and she seems to almost be against it honestly.
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You may wish to ask her what scenario she would want to be intimate. Is she waiting for marriage or is it not even interesting to her. Then consider if that works for you.
girlfriend isn’t making u do anything. to be completely honest, i’m the same way in that way. be open and honest with her, maybe not so much about the porn but question it. is she waiting for marriage or what? do not blame her, it’s your weakness and you cannot necessarily expect anything out of a girlfriend. and if you do, you have the wrong mindset and need a slap to the face. what i do is imagine how angry my girlfriend would be if she found out i watched porn, or how mad i would be seeing her jerking off or sm to guys clearly more attractive then me
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This is a relationship issue, not sure mojo is the right platform tbh. Sounds like you’re sexually incompatible?
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Neither are at fault. I’d say this is 100% the case of sexual incompatibility. Unmet needs lead to other problems.
Leave her.
She’s keeping her V for the “right” guy
Or she’s getting it else where.
If it would be me, seeing as this is clearly a struggle in the sheer incompatibility … I’d think life is too short …
If I’m a sexual man, and she’s repulsed by sex, like asexual vibes, it just wouldn’t work for me. Asexual folks can have romantic relationships with other asexual folks. But a sexual man dating long-term with an asexual woman … I just don’t see how that can work longterm.
Are you satisfied just jerking off and taking care of yourself? She doesn’t have to have sex if she doesn’t want to, but are you okay with being someone who will never have sex? Or is it possible to make the relationship open so you can have sex with others in an ethical arrangement?